i.e. “Don’t let the door hit you on the way out.” Gotta love the hypocracy.
It’s funny. I’ve spent my entire posting career defending you guys from capricious warnings. I finally get one, and I can’t count on (hardly) any of you.
There is no good reason to give a warning as a first response. None. The only reason to do it is because you WANT to piss someone off.
And that is not the sign of a good moderator. A good moderator will try to diffuse the situation. It’s really crappy that, even while I’m still angry, I know precisely how to respond to someone who is angry:
"I’m sorry you’re upset. But I felt a warning was justified. You brought up the point that it is not against the rules to use the word ‘fucking.’ And that is correct. I warned you not because of the specific words, but because I believe it will be perceived as an attack on that particular poster. Maybe I should have given you the benefit of a doubt and given you a Mod Note first. But some action was definitely justified.
"I’m sorry, but I will not be removing the warning. It is not to hurt you. I’m just doing my job. I hope you can understand.
"Best wishes
<insert mod name here>
Tada! A nice, non-inflamatory and professional email.
You guys don’t seem to get that I’m now more mad at him refusing to respond than getting the warning. I don’t think the warning was justified, but surely he could have explained why it was.
Part of his job as a moderator is to defend his actions. He refuses to do so, because “It never works.” If you can’t explain your actions, then you are acting purely on emotionalism. And emotions can’t be trusted.
And I find it very insulting that you guys are telling me to leave. If you’d read what I wrote: I CAN’T. This is my life because it’s the only thing I can do when I’m in extreme emotional distress. I can’t watch movies or TV or I’ll get sick. Even reading stories can tear me up. No other messageboard has nearly enough content.
Plus, I have to keep my habits pretty nearly the same, or I get anxious out the wazzoo. And that is counterproductive.
And, anyways, what kind of person would I be if I let myself be bullied into leaving? Yeah, not gonna happen. I’ve done nothing wrong here.
I dare you to prove that what I said was bad, rather than just use some arbitrary moral standard. Isn’t that what you atheists always say? Prove it, or it doesn’t exist?