Offensive to who? I’m not Jewish and certainly not an expert, but I’ve seen Jewish humourists use “shikseh” in the relatively innocuous sense of, say, a Jewish mother disapproving of her son’s shikseh wife. I think we’re going overboard here on the concept of what is supposed to be “offensive”. AFAIK, the word is used in a mildly disapproving sense by conservative Jews about a girl who is not Jewish. Big deal. It’s also acquired comedic value, which I’m pretty sure is the light-hearted sense in which it was being used in the above-cited example.
“racism” doesn’t consist of using a derogatory word against someone of a different race. In this context, “racism” consists of using a race-based derogatory word. “Shikseh” appears to be religion-based, not race-based. And it’s being used to describe a member of the dominant religion; and it’s being used in an affectionate way. The fact that she’s Indian-American is completely irrelevant to his usage, AFAICT, and was only relevant because he was describing an anti-Indian racist routine by Judy Tenuta.
My way of analogy, if a Mexican board member said something like, “My gringo husband is Jewish and is completely over Kanye West,” that wouldn’t be antisemitic, even though Gringo is a derogatory term and it’s used to describe a Jewish person.
Edit: wait, do you think that Indian Americans can’t be Jewish?
Technically, we are not married. But, I don’t ever see her leaving my life. To address the OP, shiksah can be derogatory. For a long time it and the male equivalent sheygetz were terms of derision and hatred. These days, when interfaith marriage is more common and less frowned upon they’re not so bad.
Looking at posts made since I started typing- Shikseh is purely a religion based term. My yiddishe mameh wouldn’t care if I brought home a woman who was blue. So long as she was Jewish.
I am Jewish and it’s a derogatory word and shouldn’t be used. It’s not equivalent to gringo. The fact that the girlfriend has Indian heritage isn’t relevant because the word isn’t bigoted against Indian people.
I can see why @puzzlegal was reluctant to moderate a post where the poster was using an affectionate, private term of endearment in describing his beloved. I would have felt the same reluctance.
However, private terms of endearment should perhaps stay just that: Private. If a term is still accepted by some to be offensive, then it’s not a reasonable excuse to force others to view it as acceptable just because used as an endearment on a public message board.
I do think the offensiveness of the term has lessened from years ago.
A gentle mod note asking the author to refrain from using derogatory terms on the Board, even if obviously used in a loving way, might have been a better way to go.
Let me remind you @Left_Hand_of_Dorkness that anti-semitic words were very popular too at one time and so was what Whoopi Goldberg calls negrobilia. No amount of quotes from magazines is going to normalize a word that from this thread itself you see has racist connotations.
I’m a big believer in Gandhi and I wish you all well. Jewish people have a lot to be proud of, and they have my respect. The use of the word “Shiksha” however is racist and I do not want my daughter to grow up in a world where it is “normalized”.
My protest ends with this thread. Wishing you all the courage to do the right thing.