Just wondering…
why do you always refer to"GF" when you’ve revealed her name before, when you announced your pregnancy?
Your privilege, of course, and I will not mention their name, just curious.
Good luck to the 3 of you.
Symetry, I suppose, since i did not want to name the others. KellyM is my girlfriend.
Oh heavens.
You have chosen a non-traditional lifestyle, you all love each other, your husband is happy and you aren’t going to break his heart by leaving him.
Just tell people it is a miracle baby, (which it IS, right?) and leave it at that. They might assume that it is HIS baby, they might wonder what is the DEAL? But who cares?
The truth isn’t going to make them happy EITHER, you know…so you might as well just let them speculate. (They will ANYWAY, and you KNOW it. )
I tried that. Someone spilled the beans about the source of the baby and then KellyM started flirting in front of everyone and so more of the beans were spilled.
Well, honey, I think that Kelly is going to have to learn some circumspection, (ONE time might be passed off as a misunderstanding) or you are going to have to do some explaining and live with the consequences.
Better yet, since she is doing the flirting (I assume it WAS with you?) then SHE should do the explaining.
Wait a sec, that last is probably a BAD idea.
Honey, I think the best thing to do is just tell the person whom you care about what she thinks THE TRUTH. She already has a garbled story from your other friend, so just wait until she either asks you, or acts icky around you…the first, just tell her the truth. The second, bring it up to HER. “Joanne, you seem to feel uncomfortable around me (and Kelly, and hubby, or whatever)…could we talk about it? What do you want to know?”
I mean, it isn’t as though you are going to be able to hide it from her forever, might as well deal with it NOW and find out if she wants to be in your life anymore. Because that is what you are REALLY worried about, if I read your concerns right? So if she can’t handle it, better to start dealing with it NOW instead of subjecting that precious baby to that kind of tension. IMHO
In any case, I am sending prayers.