If somebody tells you that you have a big nose or have an irritating laugh or smell funny then theres a very good chance that they’re telling you the truth.
If somebody tells you how wonderful/goodlooking etc. you are then they also could very well be telling you the truth.
But they could be of course just being nice to you,want something from you,want sex or personality wise are creeps.
If of course you actually were told how wonderful you were in the first place.
I bet this post is going to make me lots of friends.
I definitely had to be told I was good-looking. Before that, I just kind of didn’t know. And that I have nice eyes. It totally surprised me, but then I looked at myself in the mirror and saw what they were talking about (even if I wasn’t like totally enamored of them, I saw the features that I think are why they said that).
I feel like earlier in life most of the things people said about me that surprised me were negative (or, you know, things I should change) and I started to internalize a lot of it (while sometimes ostensibly rejecting what they said). As I got older, through my teens and early twenties that was my reality, I worked on those internalized assumptions, trying not to be those things. Now, in my late twenties the things I hear people say about me that surprise me are mostly positive things; sometimes the opposite of the negative things I heard when I was younger. I guess I changed a lot of those things over the course of the years.
I really don’t want to make out like people were mean to me when I was younger or that I was particularly unhappy, nor do I want to give the impression that I’m so great now. Really things are more complicated than that, but in general outline what I’ve written above is fairly accurate. I wouldn’t have thought of this trend in my life if it weren’t for this thread.
I’d say anyone who knows they snore had to be told that by someone, at some stage.
And I’d also say that anyone who tells you that you’re intimidating really means “Bugger. I can’t intimidate you. I usually manage it with people. You’re different to all of the rest of them.”
Which is reasonable, seeing as it’s only someone else’s opinion. Everyone’s opinion is based on their own perspective. But if you really were all that intimidating, how come they could work up the courage to tell you so?
I’ve been told by third parties that some women think that I’m stuck up. The truth is that I’m just shy around women and I’m not into flirting or even small talk, especially on a job site.