Here’s a weird one, and I’m not even sure if it annoys me or not. Well, it does annoy me, so let’s say I’m not sure if it should.
I have a group of old friends. Because we don’t live that close to one another, we invite each other (+ spouses) to each others’ homes for weekend visits a few times per year.
She will invite me to her home and we have a lovely visit.
Other friends will invite us to their homes, and we also have a lovely visit.
Then, when I invite her to my home … she doesn’t come. As it happens, my house is close to her parents (as in about an hour away, not next door or anything). She feels guilty about accepting an invitation to the town without seeing her parents. A few times, she has arranged to stay with her parents during the same weekend that I have invited guests, and intends to join us for dinner or whatever … but doesn’t, because her parents want her to have dinner with them. After all, she lives so far away.
On the one hand, I am paranoid that she thinks something is bad about my house, and this is all an elaborate sham to avoid visiting. On the other hand, I understand about the need to visit with parents and all, but it seems like I would see my friend more if I moved farther away. I don’t understand why she can’t look at it as “a weekend trip to see my good friend Delphica” as opposed to “a weekend trip to the area code where my parents live.”
I have said all this to her directly, and her response was “I know! It’s awful! The things we do for our parents, right?” and I was all … confused.