*Don’t mind me if I accidentally fall asleep in your lap. It shows that I think you’re comfy and trust you enough to not try anything screwy. Most of the time you’re also a good source of body heat.
*[referring to above]I do this with friends too. Don’t get offended.
*I am not an “I love you” all the time kind of person.
*I love singing. Hopefully you won’t make me sing for you, but if I’m singing for no apparent reason, it’s ok to just listen, but I am not thrilled with being interrupted.
*If I decide it’s amusing to play with a part of your body you hate people to touch, tell me so. I’m not a mind reader, plus I’m very easily amused and I"ll find a replacement part soon enough.
Hey!!! You smile at me all the time! What are you trying to say?
I point out cloud shapes and play castles in the sky all the time Sara. I shoul dhave added:
“I have a vivid imagination that i need to let run free occasionally for exercise” to my list.
and
“I love rain. Dancing in it. Playing in it. Or snuggling inside listening to it. It makes me happy.”
And I second Sara’s newbie nomination btw…
Juan I love you, take me I’m yours. Te quiero eres el amor de mi vida. But seriously I’m the same way and I hate it when I’m around all white people that think I talk to fast when I’m talking too slow.
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I sing, I realize I’m not good at it, I realize it’s even worse when I’m sick. Do I care? Not particularly. Just accept it and don’t try to get me to stop because I’ll be very unhappy.
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I’m moody… very VERY moody. Please do not take anything I say in anger overly seriously, though if I tell you to go away, do so. I will be even madder if you don’t. Just bear with me and I’ll apologize or accept your apology when I feel better. I realize that you only want me to feel better but you can do that by either going away or kissing me into submission, or gifts, not much else works.
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I speak Spanish, I go to Mexico most summers. Deal with it. Yes I will drink and maybe learn to smoke, it’s not exactly an addiction it’s once a year and I’m with at least half a dozen family members. I know you want to protect me but my family can do that just fine. I do like music in Spanish, I will translate it for you if you like, but please don’t look so pained when I speak Spanish and you don’t understand.
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I am bitchy. Okay how about opinionated? I will debate anything into the ground if I feel strongly enough about it. No you can not just smile and nod, and no I don’t want monosyllabic answers. I like to talk, I want to talk to you, if you would talk to me I’d be greatly obliged. If you have a problem with something I did or said talk to me about it, talk to me about anything that involves US, if there is a problem talking about it is a good thing, don’t think it will just go away or that you should give up on the relationship because of it.
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I am a fairy princess, treat me accordingly.
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I am a kitty cat. I will make cat sounds, I can purr and will purr for you if you know how to treat me, I will growl at you, I will hiss at you, I will meow at you. It’s one of the ways I communicate what I’m feeling. You can try to get me to stop, but it probably won’t happen.
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I will steal your jacket, plan accordingly. I like guys’ clothes, I can’t buy them because my parents would kill me so I will wear yours. I love guys’ sweatshirts and leather is fun in more forms than one.
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I flirt. You were fully aware of this when you came into the relationship, if you can’t deal with it then turn around and walk out of it. I love you, the fact that I say that to near everyone I care about (it’s a freaky thing I learned while on a religious retreat) does not mean that I love you any less. I hug other guys, I play around with other guys, I have lots of guy friends. Trust me, I would never do anything to hurt you.
Well I’m sure there are at least half a dozen more but I’ll get back to you on them because this post is way too long as it is.
Kitty
Thought of a couple more.
– Odd things strike me as unbelievably pretty. If it’s shiny or pretty or eye-catching in any way I will stop to look at it. Just be aware. This includes your keys and any zippers you may be wearing, as well as any jewelry or piercings you may have. Also, maple leaves hold some fixating fascination for me. I dunno why – the Canada reference, perhaps. But I love maple leaves and will stop to look through a pile and find the perfect leaf and take it home and magnet it to my fridge.
– Your coat/shirt(s) will become mine.
– If I love you, you can do no wrong. You may occasionally make a mistake, but that’s not wrong. I will make excuses for you no matter what you do as long as it’s not another woman. Please, don’t take advantage of that.
– Can I climb into your car through the window, Dukes Of Hazzard-style? Yes I can? I LOVE YOU.
Thought of another myself.
If you ever, ever, ever ask me “Where did you learn to do that?” or “How many people have you slept with?” or “That’s too freaky. No WAY!” in bed, I will get dressed and leave. I have a sexual past, as do you. I don’t care what you did with whom and how many times, why should you care about that with me? I’m just glad to be here right now, aren’t you? By the same token, if I hear bragging, ditto for getting dressed and leaving. Coital banter can be fun, asking stupid questions is not. Condoms are used. No discussion.
I like to touch you. If I do it in public it’s not a “marking my territory” thing, it’s simply a gesture of affection. That’s all.
I use bits of sign language because I want to. I don’t need to. It’s just a reminder of how things could have been much different.
I’m extremely religious. I don’t expect the same of you, but I do expect you to respect my beliefs.
Nothing comes between me and Buffy once a week.
I am a physical person among close friends. Doesn’t mean a thing. Similarly, I get crushes. Doesn’t mean a thing.
I’m a night person.
There are times when I love silence.
<sap> I get to see her in 8 days! </sap>
Andygirl, you so rule. If I don’t get to hijack another thread to tell you, have an EXCELLENT time in eight days. Get some for me, k?
Allow me to be incommunicado when I want to be. I’m not unhappy or sad. I just enjoy my solitude now and then. Allow me that and I will make an effort to be more at ease with strangers and not use you as a social buffer.
If you deal with the mail and phone calls, I’ll do the dishes. (Yes, the hot water makes my arthritic fingers feel better.)
Don’t park in my parking space and I will put the toilet paper on the toilet paper roll rather than on the counter.
That’s it. Except for the clothes-stealing part. I know you’re hot-blooded and you know I’m always cold. Gimme your jacket and I promise to not retell all those stories you’ve heard a gazillion times before.
Now that’s it.
I have more things to add now!
5.) Like andygirl, I am religious. DEAL WITH IT.
6.) I will occasionally answer your questions or thank you or greet you in French. It’s just routine ever since I took that class and fell in love with the language. I do it to everyone.
7.) I’m never going to be a supermodel. Don’t make me over. Don’t tell me how to dress or talk.
8.) I’m extremely energetic and even hyper at times, usually at 2 or 3 a.m. It’s rather fun.
9.) I’m 95% heterosexual. I’m not explaining it; nor I am apologizing for it. Don’t judge me.
I’ve got kids, they are my reason for living. I have time for you,will make time for you, and love being with you, but they will come first. It doesn’t mean I care for you any less, it just means that they are my responsibility and I take it very seriously.
:corollary: As part of my relationship with my kids, I talk to my ex a lot. It’s nothing to be jealous about- parenting is hard work and it helps if both parents can communicate amicably. Don’t worry, nothing will happen 
I will tell you how I feel without beating around the bush.
As others have said,
If a song comes on and I start sing along, I expect you to tolerate my atrocious voice. You don’t have to fawn, just politely smile and sing along if you’d like.
I have to have the fan on all night. I can sleep without it but it’s just not right (this is a sleeping alone thing, it could change;))
the covers must never be tucked in!!! If my feet are covered, I will fidget terribly until they are free as they must be.
While I’m on the bed obsession, I like to snuggle while going to sleep. Immediately sliding to the other side of the bed when its’ sleep time is a bummer.
I 'm pretty laid back otherwise
If we are walking in public and I grab your hand or loop my arm around your waist and you pull away, we’re done. I like touching and snuggling and hugging and the feel of someone else’s body against mine. If you’re not comfortable with that I’m not comfortable with you.
Most of my friends are male. I will ditch you for an ICQ or phone conversation with an old friend I haven’t seen or heard from for months because he’s been deployed. Complain about them and we’re done.
Some of them I’ve slept with, some of them I haven’t. Do not ask me which is which; if I think it’s time for you to know I’ll tell you. If you ask me about my sexual history, do not get pissed if I tell you the truth. You asked, ya nimwit. 
I value my independence and my privacy. Do not make the mistake of one of my exes and just “happen to show up” at the same place I’m relaxing with my girlfriends, because I will embarrass you and you will not like it.
I read. A lot. Everything. I also make noises when I read, if the material is funny or asinine or intriguing. You will ask me why I made the noise and I will tell you, but chances are you won’t get it. Don’t panic; this is pretty normal
I will try most anything once, as long as I’m reasonably sure I will not a)die or b)become addicted. Do NOT try to put me in a protective cocoon and tell me it’s not safe - of COURSE it’s not safe; if it was safe it wouldn’t be any fun now, would it
Don’t f*** with my family. They will always be first. No, I’m not tied to mama’s apron strings, but my grandparents are more important to me than you are - after all, I’ve known them longer. Similarly, I was raised on a small family dairy farm bought with money scraped for by my immigrant great-grandparents, my grampa lives in the house he was born in, I was raised in the house my great-grandparents died in, and my heritage is very important to me. No matter where I live or who I live with or how long I’ve lived there, home is those 300 acres in Benton County. You don’t have to understand, you just have to realize how important this is to me.
Here’s how to make an inroad to my heart…all of a sudden, out of the blue, I will make a totally off the wall suggestion. Like, say, packing the car with sleeping bags and tent on Friday morning and say that when we get off work we’re driving west and stopping at all the brown signs we pass. Say “Cool!” and I’m yours forever; start making hotel reservations and I’ll slap you around with a large trout while tossing you out the front door 
Wow. I guess I realize why the divorce resulting from the ex-husband’s girlfriend didn’t bother me all that much…Who needs therapy when I have you guys?
hugs
I had to pop back and add that this is a little quirk of mine also. I often sign as I speak, especially if I am concentrating or it is noisy. I don’t do it often, and I don’t know much sign language - but I do use it. I am sorry if it makes you uncomfortable (to whomever I am dating) but I do it, it is not my fault if you don’t understand it - many people will and many more would appreciate it.
Thanks for the newbie vote guys!
And DPR - you are obscure - and I love you for it and for your enthusiasm, personality, and love of the little things in life (that includes me grins)
First and foremost, DO NOT ask me to take my hat off (unless we’re kissing, in which case I’ll turn it around backwards with no prompting).
I drink. I do not wish to stop.
I’m married to music and playing is a passion of mine.
I change radio stations compulsively.
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*Originally posted by Fairy Princess Kitty *
**Juan I love you, take me I’m yours. Te quiero eres el amor de mi vida. But seriously I’m the same way and I hate it when I’m around all white people that think I talk to fast when I’m talking too slow.
- I speak Spanish, I go to Mexico most summers. Deal with it. Yes I will drink and maybe learn to smoke, it’s not exactly an addiction it’s once a year and I’m with at least half a dozen family members. I know you want to protect me but my family can do that just fine. I do like music in Spanish, I will translate it for you if you like, but please don’t look so pained when I speak Spanish and you don’t understand.
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Can I come too? I’ve always wanted to go to Mexico! But seriously I don’t have the time although I would love to go.
He shouldn’t want to change anything about me, nor should I want to change anything about him. If you’re looking to change a person, you’re not in love.
I’m a package deal. It all comes along for the ride.
[hijack]
Yes, but you’d probably need a ladder…
I need a '68-'70 Plymouth Roadrunner/Dodge Charger. Anybody have one for cheap (or trade for a Jeep Wagoneer)?
[/hijack]
Hola mi Amor
I see you wrote this for me, didnt you?? So this is my responce to what you want me to do:
You are not just moody, you are the moodiest person I know, but I like it. I wouldnt change anything about you. Just know that I will never leave you alone. If its gifts you want, gifts you shall get, or do you prefer kisses?? What ever you want sweat-thing. I’m sorry for ditching spanish, can you forgive me??? please??
Stop the drinking and dont ever smoke or do drugs for that matter. You promised me and I really hope you keep your promise.
I wont ask you to stop singing ever. Your voice is like that of an angle to me. I was just joking around today. I hope you didnt take that seriously. I would never ask you to stop.
Spanish is good. Yo siempre trato que tu hables español, pero tu eres la que no quieres, entonces no me digas que yo no te dejo hablarlo. Tu siempre seras mi Reina, mi Princesa, mi Vida, nunca nunca lo olvides.
Tu no eres “bitchy,” nada mas te gusta hablar, algunas vecez mucho. yo nunca te callare, yo se que para una relacion la communicacion es muy, pero muy importante.
Haz tenido mi chamara de piel por una semana, no me importa mucho que te quedez tanto tiempo con ella nada mas quidamela, Por favor. Eres mi novia, lo que sea mio lo puedes usar por cuanto quieras.
Hugs dont bother, just dont take it anyfurther. You know I trust you, its just the other guys I dont. You are free to do as you please, I wont ever stop you.
Siempre Tuyo,
Alchasehy
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My mind resides rather permenantly in the gutter, soemtimes lower. I can extract it when necessary, but it takes effort.
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I hit on my friends (of both geneders, but mostly the guys). You will deal, they come first.
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I write poetry, I write in my journal, I play guitar. These activities are necessary for my sanity. And no, you prolly can’t read them. I’ll show you if I think you should see. I’ll be flattered if you ask about the poetry, though.
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I’m cynical. I vent, generally by plotting to kill off large portions of the human race. I have NO DESIRE to do this, not really. But it’s relieving, and bonding time with Eric.
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I don’t deal well with stupid people. Or people being stupid [and yes, I recognize the difference]. I may do just fine while whatever it is is going on, but I will vent afterwards.
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Sometimes I like to go spinning in open fields at night. Try it with me once. You don’t have to like falling down dizzy.
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I’m moody. I don’t like it, and I can’t predict it, and I generally respond by punching clay or going off by myself. Accept that. And offer chocolate.
Further thoughts:
I LOVE dancing. I dance a lot. I go out dancing a lot. While I’d prefer you came with me all the time I’ll accept there are times you won’t want to. Just as you’ll accept that there are times when I’ll go anyway (refer trust issues).
I am VERY honest. few people think this is a problem… until they ask a question they don’t really want an honest answer to. So fine, go ahead and ask if I like that hat, or what my fantasies are or what I think about a friend or ho wmany people I’ve slept with, cos I’ll tell you honestly. Just make sure you REALLY want to know BEFORE you ask.
Which brings me to: don’t expect me to put up with gameplaying. I accept you’ve got insecurities and will endeavour to help eradicate them forever (if I love you I won’t care you have them so) but don’t play power games with me. We are together as us.
I’m not a mind-reader. I will not accept “You should know” or “If you don’t know I’m not telling you” as valid sentences or arguments. And don’t hold me to ransom if I fail to meet ** unspecified ** expectations you had in your mind.
And finally I dislike dishonesty and hypocrisy and can be occasionally quite intolerant of it. This includes friends and family of both of us.
Boy, this thread shouldn’t have come along with me in this cranky mood…
I am religious. Sometimes I will hear something that’s just insanely outlandish and yes, I will get pissed off. Think of it as someone kicking your dog.
I detest ignorance with an almost unequalled passion. If someone holds to a belief I know is wrong, I’m not going to back down just because you asked me to.
There are select few things I enjoy more than (while with you) just holding you or stroking your hair or looking in your eyes.
I smile with those eyes more often than I smile with my mouth. You’ll see this if you look back into mine.
I took French for many, many years. I’m quite familiar with the language and occasionally I’ll mutter something in it for the hell of it.
I like to curse in foreign languages. If you like I’ll tell you what I’m actually saying. I’ll curb my tongue when appropriate but I like to have vocal freedom:)
I don’t have a super self-image. Sometimes I will think I’m a decent person and sometimes I won’t. Sometimes I’ll think I look good. Others I’ll think I look like shit burned the wrong way.
You look beautiful without makeup or any of that stuff . . . I reserve the right to believe that.
I’m a night person. I get my best work done when you’re most probably asleep. If you call at 10, don’t be surprised if I answer and I’ve just gotten up.
I enjoy physical exertion. Have a problem with my body? Bye:)
My sexuality is not a topic for gossip among your friends. I want you. That is all you need know:)