Following some interest in The Perfect Guy I thought I’d share this as well.
I had made a tongue-in-cheek list of the perfect woman (which I’m yet to post in the other thread and may not do so now) but it got to me thinking about a serious list for what would qualify as my soulmate. This is what my rushed brainstorm came up with:
Have a natural smile that embodies enthusiasm.
Have eyes that dance with her smile and twinkle with mischief without it
Be conscious of health without becoming obsessed by it
Have a good sense of humour
Not worry about what the neighbours/relatives will think
Be affectionate
Not play games when she wants something (whether it’s physical, material or emotional)
Love snuggling
Be intelligent. She doesn’t have to be able to debate Schroedinger’s Cat but it’d be nice if she knew what it was.
Be spontaneous
Be unafraid to explore her own sexuality (preferably with my company)
Enjoy time together but be comfortable when we’re apart.
Be honest
Be trusting
Understand that sometimes I don’t want to talk about it. I just need a hug.
Appreciate the difference between sex and making love and recognising that we need both
Catch me off guard with occasional surprises
Enjoy both giving and receiving massages
Appreciate my hobbies as I’d appreciate hers
Not get upset when I want to watch the big game. In fact she’d have munchies ready so I wouldn’t miss anything in getting up.
Love lying in bed listening to the rain
Enjoy dancing in the rain (heck and singing too)
Be independent but preferring the interdependence of the relationship
Be unafraid to speak her mind but without making it an emotional slanging match
Willing to try new things
Feel comfortable with silences (ie understand they don’t have to be filled when in each other’s company)
Not analyse every word or nuance
Be secure in herself or at least attempt to be
Have a cute nickname for me (and not use it in front of my mates)
Have an occasional wicked streak
Never ever ask if I think she’s fat
In fact never ever ask questions she doesn’t really want the answer to or wants one answer only
Not generalise about the genders and what the perfect man is/would do unless she was making fun
Love cuddles and hugs
Let me open the door for her and treat her like a princess
Talk with me not at me
Never assumes she is automatically right or that her idea is better
Be open minded and fair
Be willing to do things she didn’t overly enjoy and not to be too happy when I agree to not to do them because she doesn’t.
Be capable of withstanding all the affection I’d shower upon her
Be supportive when I’m a bit down or when things are tough
All I would add is (and perhaps these sentiments are listed but worded a bit differently):
– She’s beautiful on the inside and out. She doesn’t seem to realize the former, and she doesn’t call a lot of attention to the latter.
– She has a fabulous sense of humor that, while it can be biting at times, isn’t negative or hurtful.
– To hear her laugh is the reason you hope your heart is still beating when you wake up in the morning.
– She’s as excited as you that the Detroit Lions seem to have upgraded the speed in their linebacking corps, which bodes well for the nickle package that they had so many problems with last year.
– She gets a little spring in her step when the Red Wings season begins.
(Well, maybe the last two were pushing it. But we are talking perfection here …)
She should be really smart. She should argue with me in her head, and use words like “egregious” and “sophistry” on a daily basis.
Naturally, she must be drop-dead gorgeous
A Voice. An amazing voice. She could melt butter when she talks, and she can break glass when she sings. Ability to manipulate objects with your vocal chords is cool. When you hear her voice from whatever source warm shivers run up your spine.
Let me re-emphasize. She should have a nice voice.
She must know exactly why there are so many songs about rainbows.
She plays the harp. And probably the harpsichord. And maybe the penny whistle. And definitely the flute. And maybe the nose flute. Yeah, probably the nose flute.
She should have no problem with guys who spend a lot of time speaking in small character voices. She should probably even like it.
She should have the ability to control the wind with her voice, like Pocahontas.
She should like musicals, but only the good ones. Good ones of course being those that I like.
She should have “happy” selected as her default emotion.
She should want children.
She started reading this thread, and made it this far.
6.She started reading this thread, and actually found the part about schroedinger’s cat to be interesting.
An accent would be cool.
She should have a thing for film-geeks, and be singularly devoted to a particular television-directing/producing one of them, preferably me.
Finally, she should be able to walk on water, talk to animals, read my mind (sometimes), like The Princess Bride, enjoy the outdoors, rule a small island nation, make really good lasagne, be very tolerant of a house full of thousands of electronic gadgets, all wired together, never sleep, and want desperately to pack up and move to a small villa in the South of France.
Um, I play the harp. Just thought that’d be relevant.
I was actually curious to see if someone’d make a thread like this - guys never seem to share their “perfect girl”. Fun to see. Except for the interest in sports part. But, anyhow…
Just a note to say, I don’t care if a woman is into sport or not. In fact, being a totally non-sport-enthusiast, I prefer similar in the Significant Other department.
