One of the books I read with my fifth graders is Sal and Gabi Break the Universe–and I can’t recommend it highly enough. There’s a quote in the book that I ask my students to think and write about:
Gabi, I was noticing, was a very forgiving person. I’ve noticed sometimes smart people aren’t. They’re more interested in being right, being on top, and they think that means crushing the competition with their huge brains. But Gabi didn’t need to put others down to raise herself up.
It’s definitely a trap that folks can fall into (and I’m definitely writing this from the bottom of the trap myself). Helping neurospicy kids engage with ambiguity and humility is one of the most important bits of my job, IMO.