Threatened if I go to the Police. What should I do.

In My Humble Opinion
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So are we’re talking about a single contract shared between multiple people or individual contracts with the landlord?

If it’s a single contract than whose name is the lease in?

If it were me and I could pay money to be rid of a violent person I would spend it and move. But the landlord would know why I was moving and I would point out that other tenants with the same desire for safety would react the same way.

On a financially related note, when I was first starting out in life I bought a used mobile home because it was cheaper than an apartment from day one. It means you have to qualify for something akin to a small car loan but from a payment standpoint it saved me money from day one over a traditional appartment. I then used the money I saved plus the sale of the mobile home as a down payment for a house. If that leap is too expensive then “house hop” by buying a nicer mobile home and then a nicer one (always used) until you are in a position to buy a home or you’ve found a mobile home that you could retire in. There are retirement communities like that.

You get the best bang for the buck in your living arrangements. You can also become a landlord and lease one of the rooms in your mobile home which puts you in the drivers seat with who you live with. You make the rules and they can as strict as NO COHABITATION at all. All romance to be taken off premises. That means only one occupant per room and no exceptions. It may take some time but there’s got to be a morally upright single person out there down on his luck who would LOVE to pay your rent. When I was struggling between jobs I worked at places that had all kinds of single people who got kicked to the curb because of the economy.

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obstreperous

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I know that legally there was no cause to punch the OP. Morally we could argue the situation where the OP is verbally abusive and potentially out-of-control then perhaps it was appropriate to punch him in the mouth.

But coming up later and threatening the OP?! Sorry, that would be the end of the discussion. Move out, file charges, sue the fucker for damages. Probably in that order.

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A punch in the mouth warrants a punch in the mouth, in my book.

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Now that was just mean… :smiley:

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Guanolad, How long was it from the time he hit you to the time he apologized?
Was it a reasonable time for both of you to calm down?
1 hour?, 2hours?, 1 day? more.?

Canada, right? Might want to fix that bad attitude you seem to have.

So many people get hurt because they think/know that something is illegal and so assume that they are safe. They have no concept of people doing those violent things anyway.

In this case, IMO, this should be the drill:

Landlord (if no help)

Police (if no help)

Documentation (if no help)

Group complaint from as many residents as will join you ( no can do, not nuff people because it is a small place and the only other resident is 80 years old and stays locked in her room)

Decesion:
Go?
Stay? (If staying, do not open your mouth for any reason unless you know you will win the fight.)

In any case ( you need to change you ways no matter how hard or you will keep having this trouble IMO )

See my previous post.

Not saying it is right or anything, but most places outside of the city limits of many places, doing what you did will not end well or easily.

Most folks know better than to get right in somebodies SO’s face being loud and cussing.
Take it to the law in any manner but if you are still close to her when I get to you, you will be going down.

( she murder your SO or kid?, maybe you get a pass if they did not need killin. )

So far, I have had the sense to be quiet ( maybe leave ) in places & with folks that I know can & will will against me, even in just a yelling match.

Good luck with it all working out in a good way for you.

From here forward, do not forget what your history has taught you.

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Move. Get on the phone,find something and move,

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If this mentally-ill convicted felon ever hits you again, while you’re still living there, remember…we told you to move out. You’d be the one to blame if it happened.

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Yes I am sure that will really concern him the next time he’s attacked.From now on he should just do what the internet tells him.

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Or not. Staying at home and being a victim is certainly one of the choices considered here. But then, the op did go on the internet and ask for advice.

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God I don’t miss flatting. I never got punched in the face by a flatmate though.

Get out and stay out. Going further with the Police are up to you.

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Stay, and get into a convicted felon and his white trash girlfriend’s drama…or leave.

The OP’s choice will reveal a great deal about his character.

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Did the constable steer you toward not pressing charges or otherwise discourage it?

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Hindsight is 20/20. There are lots of things I would not have done if I’d known what was going to happen. I’ve lived a lifetime of living in fear, not doing things in case they go wrong and I get the raw end of the stick.

I messed up, but it wasn’t as though I was actually hurting anyone, I was just shouting. In fact, I may have just been quietly seething, I can’t really remember. I’m not normally a shouty type. Something like “Get. The. Fuck. Out. Of. This. House.” Still not nice, but hardly violent.

I have never been in a fight before, so the ins and outs of what’s a bad idea are something I am not familiar with. I had never directly spoken to this guy before, they just moved in and started wrecking the place, escalating to the point where something had to be done. Nobody else was stepping up to the plate, so I did it. It was that or sitting in my room hiding away waiting for them to stop, which it was clear they never would.

My methodology was wrong. Live and learn.

Moving completely sucks. I have tried to move away from here a few times, and have been rejected every time due to my crappy financial circumstances and recent rental history (having been evicted for non-payment of rent from the last place I was in, a huge black mark on my record). So it’s an expense I don’t know if I can afford, and horribly stressful. I’m in a desperate situation, with limited options, so it’s not so simple.

I used to live alone. It was glorious.

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He was very good at appearing objective, laying out both options and the likely consequences. I had no witnesses, the court case would come up months from now after the fire in my belly would be out, and is often a big hassle for people who have to give up a few days work to attend.

After I said I wouldn’t press charges, he also recommended I move out.

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I hope you follow that advice as soon as feasible. Dude, I’ve moved out of some creepy places, and the one you’re talking about’s got “no-no” written all over it.

One time I was looking for a new place to live because the place I was living in (with my gf and our two cats) had become intolerable. And then I thought, “what the fuck am I doing wasting my time looking for a place to live when the most important thing for me to do is to get us the fuck out of here immediately??”

So we schlepped all our shit out of there. Then we looked for a place to live.

You say you’re not sure you can afford to move? That’s close enough. You can afford it. You can’t afford to sit around in the situation you’ve described. IMHO

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You don’t think a punch in the mouth is warranted for yelling and cussing out someones girlfriend? Well, i disagree.

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No, a punch in the mouth is not warranted for yelling at someone’s girlfriend. That’s why it’s a criminal act to punch someone in the mouth, but not to yell at them.

Good luck, GuanoLad. It sounds volatile and unpleasant and I hope you’re able to find a resolution asap.

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I hope you stay away from trashy women, then…

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I seriously doubt he would have yelled and cussed at anyone if those had been men. Next time you feel like harassing women try to remember you are a pussy so this doesn’t happen to you again.