To all the ignorant people out there - stop making the South out to be some unique villain.

[BigT]

@Shagnasty

I never said that in the least. As a matter of fact, I said the opposite many times. The repeated use of the word Mammy is a very offensive slur to someone that helped raise me from a baby and I loved very much. Her name was Lola and she was like a surrogate mother to me from a toddler all the way through high school. I will have to kindly ask one time only that you do not ever and I mean NEVER again use slurs against my effective family ever again in your lifetime. I loved her with all my heart as and I resent the vapid Gone With the Wind references to something you know nothing about.

Dude, the only reason your surrogate mother ever even came up was in a thread talking about servants, where, when someone mentioned that you had a Mammy, you said:

@Shagnasty

You may think it is a horrible thing to say but I did in fact. Lola was just like Mammy even in appearance. She raised from a baby all the way through early college and I still visited her as an adult. She died two years ago in her 90’s and I cried my eyes out. I love you and miss you Lola.

I guess it’s progress that you now realize that the Mammy archetype is not something to say about someone you love. But, still, the fact that your family hired someone who looked and acted just like the Mammy archetype is pretty fucked up.

You don’t have to not love her to admit that racism might have been a factor in her hiring. I have no problem admitting that my grandfather, as much as I loved him, was racist towards Latinos (due to having bad experiences as a child.) Or that my parents who I love more than anything still are dealing with homophobia.