To My Brother, Andy.

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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God, how I miss you!

We were best buddies, growing up together.
Sharing a room, toys, everything.

You were the youngest boy, me the oldest. Neither of us got along well with Tommy, so we bonded.

I protected you from bullies.

We played D&D together, & went to Science Fiction cons.

Stayed up late to watch Godzilla films.

When you did something very wrong, & Dad was in a furious mood anyway, I lied, said I did it, took your beating for you.

Shared a bedroom, & our lives.

When I got my first paying job, I bought you things. Lead figures, & paint & brushes. You won contests at the local hobby shop with your entries.

I danced at your wedding. The only time I’ve ever danced in my life.

Then, you divorced.

We…grew apart.

You don’t visit Mom & Dad for 6 months on end, even though we’re 30 minutes away from your home.

You don’t visit me.

When I try to visit, you won’t let me in, because you’re “busy”.

You never phone, & when I phone you, you have no time.
When I ask, you say there’s nothing wrong.
I miss you.
You didn’t come for Thanksgiving Dinner.
You won’t be here for Christmas.

I love you.

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:frowning: How sad.
I hope your brother will realize what he’s missing and re-establishes a relationship with you.

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Re-establish, that is.

4

:frowning:
Think I’m gonna go give my brother a call now…

5

That is the saddest thing, Bosda Di’Chi of Tricor. Do you think that he has something in his life that he is embarassed that you’d find out about? Is there any reason you can think of as to why he’s doing this?

I have to wonder if one of my sisters will finally figure out that she needs to call our mom once in a while. She’ll email, and it’s not like she’s distant with the rest of us or anything, and I know she loves my mom and wants to visit (my mom lives over 1,000 miles away), but she just . . . never . . . calls. She hasn’t talked to my mom on the phone in years. She has said that she won’t call because my mom is somewhat deaf (though I never have trouble talking to her on the phone) and, I suspect, because my mom is a crackpot who talks too long about religion and herbal remedies. (My sister is not anti-religion or anti-herbal remedies, so it isn’t like she’ll spontaneously combust if she has to tolerate a little rambling about it once in a while.)

When my dad died my sister said that she regreted not calling him or my mom more, but she’s still doing it. My mom hesitates to call her, because my sister has made it clear that she “won’t talk to a deaf woman.” Oy vey.

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I’m so sorry. How long has he been doing this? Is he having trouble moving on from the breakup of his marriage? Is he afraid that somebody at home will be upset with him about it, or blame him for it? Or is it just too hard to talk about? I’m just thinking out loud here. I’ve lost friends in the past because I didn’t know how to tell them the bad stuff in my life. So I just didn’t get in touch with them anymore.

Maybe if you keep trying he’ll remember that you love each other. Good luck.

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{{{{Bosda}}}} :frowning:

What ever problems he has are his, you can’t fix him no matter how much you want to love.

I understand the pain, wish I could make it go away but I can’t. I can be here for you though. My email is public and if you want to use it feel free. Take care Bosda-baby, you know I loves ya’.

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Some people in the family blamed Andy.
But we’re a quarrelsome family, always have been.
Maybe he’s just fed up. :frowning:

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Andy came for Xmas. :slight_smile:

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Well?!? Don’t just leave us hanging! How did it go?

excited

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There was a smile in my post, wasn’t there?
:slight_smile: :slight_smile:

No fighting, all went well. A good Xmas.

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That’s wonderful news! Wonderful!