Look, asshole, if he wants to kill himself because his own mother won’t leave him alone, MAYBE THERE’S A PROBLEM!!!
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Wow, nice rant.
I give it a 10 for clarity…
See, it’s what I get for trying to criticize somebody’s wife.
You want clarity? Here’s clarity:
-Wife is a Controlling Bitch; Husband is Officially Whipped.
-They are “Concerned Parents” i.e. constantly pester him about getting a “career job”.
-Boyfriend is barely graduated and sadly can’t get away from them, let alone get a “career job”.
-He calls me and questions his worth as a human being.
-I, naturally, get mad.
-I call Officially Whipped Husband while still mad. He admits nothing. They are going to “talk” tonight (i.e. I just made things worse).
ARGH!
Never miss an oppotunity to STFU and let whipped boyfriend fight his own battles.
Between you and me, he’s well on his way to living his father’s life anyway. :rolleyes:
Har, har…I only whip him literally.
It’s only when his constant fighting with them spills over into his emotional health that I get, how we call it, a wee bit upset.
My god, you’re an asshole.
Sorry to hear about it, Giant Spongess.
Eh, right now I’m mostly mad at myself for shoving my big mouth in edgewise, cause it certainly did no damn good. Cause he didn’t listen. Even if he did have valid points (I admit, there were a few) the fact that his son is suicidal should arouse a little more concern than that.
Your intentions were good, but you can’t get directly involved in his family battles.
Just support him directly and see if you can steer him to some sort of counseling.
With all due respect if your boyfriend is suicidal because his mother pesters and bitches at him to get “a career job”, I might suggest you have far larger potential problems looming in the future re any relationship with him, even if bitch mom was out of the picture.
See? This is why clarity is bad.
As with everything, it’s more complicated than that.
Despite what **LaurAnge **said, **QuickSilver **was right. You need to learn when to keep your mouth shut.
Hey, whaddya know? My comments seem to have actually made a difference for once. They at least conceded to let him leave an argument.
This bull is vacating the chinashop.
What in the ever living fuck is this thread about?
I think Giant_Spongess is upset because her boyfriend’s mom is hoarding all the available cans of Pussi-Wip.
I hope your boyfriend can seek some assistance, but let’s face it, getting involved in family squabbles is a Bad Idea. Good luck though, y’all will need it.
How recent is “barely graduated”? I understand that he doesn’t have the means to move out ATM, but if he graduated in the spring of this year, he should at least have been actively seeking a job in his chosen field. Even if he graduated last month, he should still have a game plan.
I further understand that jobs in one’s chosen field don’t just materialize. But perhaps Mom’s frustration is caused by your SO’s not looking hard enough for a “career job”, not his mere lack of one. And if he wants to get away from them, surely finding a job is a means to that end.
(That said, if she really is on his case 24/7, and he really is suicidal, that’s not conducive to finding a job. Still not a wasp’s nest you should stick your hand into, though.)
Uh, no, **Quickie’s ** right. I eventually broke up with a boyfriend because he couldn’t fight his own battles. Giant Spongess I wish you luck, but it’s not your place to get involved, and he may not be good for you anyway.
So if BF really is suicidal you just riled up the beast that was tormenting him?
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Get boyfriend legitimate counseling. Suicide talk demands professional help.
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Support and encourage his job search
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When boyfriend has shown healthy improvement help boyfrined shop for a spine.
Being right or wrong does not an asshole make. It’s all in the delivery.
Keep in mind what he’s going through now is a sign of how your marriage to him will be. (If he doesn’t change how he deals with them.)
Just take that into consideration. Forewarned is forearmed.