Speaking as someone with a long and arduous history of depression (ranging anywhere from mild dysthymia to suicidal major depression at various points in time), I wholeheartedly agree. I got about halfway through the OP in question before hitting the back button. My only response to a diatribe like that is “What are you going to do about it?”
It would be one thing if he’d actually tried for the millionth time and been rejected; that’s when you have to start evaluating why the things you’re doing aren’t working. But to not even try? Gah.
And again… if you do need to start making these evaluations, whining on an internet messageboard in lieu of doing the work won’t change anything at all. Presuming he wants things to change, instead of just wallowing in familiar, comfortable misery, he needs to walk away from the computer and find himself some help. DO something about it.
Explain to me how you can say
“I believe you are lying about your illness in order to seek attention”
or
“I am sorry for your illness but your behavior is both counterproductive and annoying”
In a helpful non-judgmental manner?
Or according to you these statements are obviously forbidden as soon as someone claims metal illness?
Look, Stewie Griffin (reading your posts in his voice is the only thing that makes them bearable): I was expressing an opinion that I really didn’t want to see the fallout from a dude offing himself from reading a message board on the infotainment news networks. But I also said we could weather the storm, so get down off the cross. Besides, I thought you’d be right with me, as the Dope being blamed for some dude’s suicide would probably clog up the Pit with those “weaksauce rants” you’re always yammering about.
Plus, before you declare us all “beardies and fatties” you might want to look at the Doper picture gallery. We’re a motley bunch, but I think it’s fair to say that several of the posters here (I’m thinking about Shodan and Clothahump specifically) are in pretty good shape. I’d also like to see what you look like, just to see if your head is really shaped like a football.
And yet AGAIN, no one’s saying you have to be “aw, poor baby!” But once again, hello, excluded middle? Jesus, people.
statsman1982, have we ever seen a picture of ivn1188 by the way? EVERYTIME someone brings up the “fatties and middle-aged fugglies” crap I always ask for THEIR pictures. I have yet to see a single photo.
There’s a world of difference between that sort of approach in real life, and that sort of approach on the internet. Namely that it doesn’t work on the internet, due to a lack of tone, and the inability to back up words with actions.
Personally, I’m glad that thread was locked. Mookie (assuming he wasn’t a troll) wasn’t going to get help from anything in that thread, and locking was the only good solution. I hope this thread gets locked too.
Excluded middle? Have you seen the crap that’s been spewed in this thread about Buckety and Chessic? They’re bigoted, closed hearted, mean spirited, cruel, potentially mentally ill pricks who pick on the weak to make themselves feel stronger and that’s just halfway down page one. Seems one group wants very badly to eliminate any possible middle.
Of course you think it should be a rule. That’s because you’re sort of retarded. See, the thing that amuses me is that posters like you just cannot grasp the concept that I really don’t care about “hypocrisy” or “being an asshole”, nor do I have anything to prove to you. I’m not vying for the doper feel-good seal of approval, nor am I offering constructive criticism to make the world a better place; I do enough in real life that I don’t feel the need to console some whiny tard on the internet. My happiness is pretty much orthogonal to what you think.
If you post stupid shit, I’ll call you on it. I’m not trying to win you over and make it all better. Frankly, I don’t even remember most of the faceless mass of posters who cry about mean people and follow me around calling me a dick in futile attempts to make me see the error of my ways or whatever their goal is.
Oh yes, here’s a pic that you can use to imagine me if you like: here you go
“I am sorry for your illness, but I find your behavior counterproductive”
Expresses empathy and doesn’t use negative language. This assumes that the reader believes the poster. Obviously, if you think someone is lying, then somebody might say something like your first comment.
But that’s not what happened in this thread. A few self righteous fucktards decided that it would be fun to pick on someone who at least may have some issues to deal with.
It must be difficult for you to have to follow me around and call me names all the time. I feel hurt that you aren’t criticizing me without expressing empathy and that you are using negative language.
I forgive you, though. Your mental handicaps shine through in every post you make, and I understand and appreciate your difficulties with posting interesting and insightful things.
