Totally unjustifiable rant by me

The BBQ Pit
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Shit. Where to begin? Alright, so I’m getting married in November, right? This is a good thing, and not what I’m ranting about. But the problem is that these motherfuckers are <b>damn</b> expensive, even if we are going the under 125 person, lets keep it simple as possible, try to find a way out of paying full price for any damn thing type route.

So I, after much soul searching and discussion w/ my SO, decided that it might be wise to switch to 3rd shift. After all, there’s a 31% premium that comes along with the shitty hours. So I prepare myself emotionally for the totally fucked up schedule that my mind and body (not to mention our relationship) will have to endure. A girl I work with expresses interest to a co-worker in moving to a schedule more like mine. Bingo. I tell her that I would be interested in switching with her.

She changes her mind. Her kid didn’t get into preschool, which was apparently the reason she wanted to switch. (Totally rude side note: How dumb is this fucking kid that she can’t get into <b>PRESCHOOL?</>) Then she tells me that another person on her shift is totally annoying, and that she and the other person she works with want him out. Yes, she has discussed this with our manager. Great.

My boss needs to have a meeting with me anyway, in which I get my obligatory 4.5% raise (what was the inflation rate this year? Anybody?) She tells me about her conversation w/ preschool girl, and that this might be the opportunity I need to switch to 3rd. Great.

I talk to annoying guy last night, and ask him if he is interested in switching. Nope. Godishesofuckingannoyingthatiwannakillhim. He needs to tell me for 15 minutes the joys of working 3rd shift, while I just want to scream, ”YOU FUCKING MORON!! DON’T YOU REALIZE THAT I AM ON A MISSION OF MERCY HERE? PRESCHOOL-BITCH IS GONNA FUCKING STRANGLE THE PISS OUT OF YOU, PINCH YOUR TOO-BIG-FOR-YOUR-BODY-TYPE-HEAD OFF AND POOP DOWN YOUR FORESHORTENED NECK IF SHE HAS TOO WORK WITH YOU FOR ONE MORE FUCKING WEEK!!! AND STOP IT WITH THE INCESSANT BARRAGE OF PERSONAL QUESTIONS WITHOUT LISTENING TO THE FUCKING ANSWERS!!!”

So anyway, now I feel like I will shortly be involved with some piss-ant Machiavellian-type bullshit as they try to get this silly fucking troglodyte off of 3rd shift and try to get me in. Fuck.

Oh, and as a side note, I won’t be able to get to my cousin’s wedding up north on July 5th, because apparently the veterans at this joint know to put in for vacation on the 1st of fucking January. (Side note #2: Of course my cousin has to have her wedding on July 5th. It just makes sense, doesn’t it? [sigh] dumb-ass day for a wedding.)

ARRRRGGHHHHH!!! ENOUGH WITH THE STAR WARS COMMERCIALS!!! I ALREADY KNOW TOO MUCH YOU FUCKERS!!

OK, it’s my virgin rant. So be gentle. I’m sure it’ll get better w/ time.

(Side note #3: Hi Opal!) (just had to do it!):wink:

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argh. And I can’t code for shit either. Mods, have pity on the newbie??:mad: :mad: :mad: :wally

Repeat after me, “Preview is your friend. Preview is your friend. Preview is your…ah shit.”

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Dude, I’m stressed for you. If you can’t afford the wedding, downscale the wedding. Why put yourself through all of this?

Zette

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Yep, I’m with Zette on this one.

BTW, welcome, and nice introductory rant :slight_smile:

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Thanks, Zette, Goo. Actually, we are having a relatively downscale wedding. But even still, it’ll still be about $5,000-7000. Fiancee-type girl is also working two jobs, so I’m just trying to put in as much as I can. Plus, my credit apparently isn’t good enough for the ring to be financed, so I am trying not to torture her for too long in the waiting for it. (She is currently over my shoulder trying to understand the draw of airing my laundry out in cyberspace ;)) Anyway, thank you for your support.

I give the rant a 7 myself. Not quite enough obscure Dennis Millerian references to earn anything but an 8, minus 1 for coding errors.:smiley:

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I must reiterate- $5,000- $7,000 for a wedding? Working multiple jobs to pay for it? Just say No! If she is reading this, I say “just say no” to her as well. The important thing is your marriage, not the party that goes with it.

Focus on the two of you as a couple, get married, and don’t start out with money stress- it’s a terrible way to live. I must reiterate- $5,000- $7,000 for a wedding? Working multiple jobs to pay for it? Just say No! If she is reading this, I say “just say no” to her as well. The important thing is your marriage, not the party that goes with it. Focus on the two of you as a couple, get married, and don’t start out with money stress- it’s a terrible way to live.

IMHO,
A dream wedding is one in which the person you will be with for the rest of your life- the person you would kill or die for- the person that you love so deeply that the thought of not being together actually hurts. That person is beside you promising to love, honor, and cherish you for as long as you both shall live. All the rest is fluff. In 5 years, you won’t remember if the pew bows were perfect, if the cake was tasty, or if the dresses were just right. It’s won’t matter a lick.
Zette
My four cents ('cause I posted twice)

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What Zette said twice. If you can get $5 to 7 thousand up, spend two thousand or less on the wedding and use the rest to get your marriage started on a more sound economic footing. (my.02 worth) Good Luck!

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I gotta back up Zette also. My brother got married last year and my sister the year before and they both had very nice ceremonies and receptions for less than the $5000-$7000 you’re expecting. Are you sure you’re not spending money you don’t have to?

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I gotta back up Zette also. My brother got married last year and my sister the year before and they both had very nice ceremonies and receptions for less than the $5000-$7000 you’re expecting. Are you sure you’re not spending money you don’t have to?

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Here are some recent “cheap wedding” threads with helpful suggestions:

Here comes the bride, broke and broken

Who had the most low-maintenance wedding?

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Our wedding came in at under $2500 (Australian), and was absolutely perfect. There was nothing else we could have wished for.

However, I understand that many people (read: women) have a clear idea of what they want, and would be disappointed to settle for second best, so I can’t wholeheartedly back up the others when they say the big wedding needs a rethink. The wedding forum I joined before my big day had many brides who were paying in excess of $20,000, so my standard have changed a lot and I don’t really consider $5,000-$7,000 to be excessive. It’s a once-in-a-lifetime occasion (one hopes so anyway).

Also, while I didn’t know what I did want, I did know what I didn’t want if that makes sense. I did not want to elope. I wanted my family there when I got married. I did not want to go to a registry office, or overseas. By the time the day came around, I was so sick of people telling me to “just elope, it’s cheaper” that I was ready to scream. It’s very disheartening to be told not to “waste” your money on the wedding you want to have.

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But is d_redguy “refusing to settle for second best” or is he actually paying too much? Could he be missing out on getting a better deal/price on something because he’s “expecting” it to cost a certain amount of money?

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My sister and her husband had a small ceremony with the person my sieter is closest to - me - and the person my now-brother-in-law is closest to - a good friend. Then they had a honeymoon at Snoqualmie Falls (Ever seen Twin Peaks? It’s the waterfall at the beginning.). A few months later, when the weather was good (they were married in February), they had an informal reception for all of their friends. The total cost was probably about $1K. They love each other and are still married. And they saved the money they didn’t spend on the wedding in the hopes of buying a house (which they are finally now doing).

My brother had an expensive marriage. He’s now in debt and divorced.

A big wedding is not necessary, and if you have trouble affording it, don’t do it!!! You can have something wonderful without shelling out moola.

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Well, my mindet is more of the cazzle variety right now. And, yes, people have done the whole, “just elope, its cheaper.” After all, there are two of us that need to make the decision.

Besides, the rant isnt about the cost of the wedding- that I don’t mind and will be more than happy to pay. It’ll probably be closer to the $5000 anyway. The rant is all about the silly shit at work and trying to get to 3rd shift. And it’s unjustafiable because I know damn well that it is not my place to be pissed that people aren’t going to change their lives around simply to make mine easier…

But thanks for the input people! :slight_smile:

And look ma, I can code!:stuck_out_tongue: