Okay, I can see getting ripped a couple of new ones if this goes down the wrong road of understanding, but I really am confused and wonder if anyone has a coherent answer.
Why would anyone change genders - let’s assume pretty much full physical change, since that seems to be the case in the examples I can think of - and then prefer their new gender as a sexual partner? Even being as open-minded and understanding about the complexities of gender image and roles and orientation and so forth as I can, this just short-circuits in my head.
The classic case, which has bemused me for decades, is the writer Amos Salmonson, who was both gay and an early writer about gay issues in science fiction. He became Jessica Amanda Salmonson, who continued the career of insightful writing of and about “gay science fiction”… and is a lesbian.
More immediately, and although fictional it seems to be a carefully drawn characterization, is “Nomi” from Sense8. We get enormous detail about her life as formerly-Michael, now-Nomi and we’ve seen all but about six square inches of her body. (Since the first scene we saw her in was the infamous splatterdong shot, we can assume she is a truly 100% physical trans.) The character is played by a transgender woman as well.*
And Nomi is quite, quite thoroughly presented as a lesbian.
Maybe I am so rooted in traditional thinking and my “cis-male” viewpoint that I am one with the dinosaurs, but it seems to me that if you find one gender or the other to be sexually appealing, it is better to be the opposite gender so that the maximum number of things work to your advantage, including societal acceptance. To be deeply attracted to men and physically change yourself into a man, or vice versa, seems so convoluted and counterproductive that I can’t wrap my mind around it.
Are sexual identity and sexual preference really that separate in some people? That is, were Salmonson and “Nomi” born lesbians who had the additional hurdle of being born in the wrong-gender body?
How many trans-gender homosexuals are there in the mix?
(* I really don’t know anything about the actor who plays Nomi, Jackie Chapman, as most references refer to her and her life and career exclusively as “she” and only one parenthetical line in WP notes that she was born male. For all I know, Chapman is thoroughly hetero.)