I feel a bit silly asking these questions, because I feel like I should already know the answers, and I don’t. But, hey, that’s what the SDMB is for.
So - easy question first -
Guys, when you wake up in the morning with a hard on, is that thing ready for action? I mean, I’ve heard it called a “pee hard-on”, which sort of implies that it’s only there because the guy has to pee. So, if that’s true (is it?), is it best for the guy to get up and pee and then come back to bed, assuming some morning sex is going to happen, or is it OK to just jump right in there?
I know guys can’t pee and ejaculate at the same time, but I guess I’m wondering if you WERE to jump right in there, would the resulting ejaculationbe uncomfortable, or not as enjoyable, or whatever?
Ok, now for the (what I think) is going to be the harder question (pardon the pun) -
I was watching Sex and the City and Carrie starts dating a guy who turns out to be a **PREMATURE EJACULATOR!!!/B] Ahem. So - here’s the question for anyone with experience with this, or anyone who wants to speculate:
Why is this a problem? Or, more specifically, assuming the couple is kissing, petting, and the guy ejaculates - why don’t they just wipe up the sperm, and carry on? I’ve seen pictures (adds for some sort of product) where the guy is sitting on the side of the bed with his head hung in shame and the woman is sitting there looking all pissed off and disgusted. ??!!??!!
This really confuses me - I get that guys have a refractory period and it takes them a while to achieve an erection a second (third, forth) time, but so what? Why would the couple just not continue with foreplay until he’s hard again?
But wait! you say - he’ll ejaculate too fast again! Look, there’s only so many times that a man over the age of about 30 is going to be able to come that fast - eventually (3 times? 4 times?), he’s gonna be out of sperm and things are going to take longer.
See, in my head that sounds like kind of a good time - both halves of the couple having multiple orgasms - WHEE! But it doesn’t seem to play out like that in “literature” (or advertisements or whatever).
So – what’s the deal? I’ve never dated a premature ejaculator before - or maybe I have and didn’t realize 'cus I was too busy pursuing round 2 to notice.
So - if the guy was to come really really fast, what is it stopping the couple from just continuing? Psychological stuff? The woman reacting weird? The guy reacting weird? Or is there some physical thing that would prevent the man from getting hard again?
I patiently await enlightenment.