Former co-worker at Typo Knig’s company.
When he was first hired, he was unemployed, and had declared bankruptcy. Friends spotted him the money to get a new battery for his motorcycle so he could get to work.
With a steady job, his outlook improved. He bought a car. Refinanced his house to a loan with better terms. Things were pretty good for 2-3 years.
Then he started coming in to work late. Really late. As in, people took to phoning him at noon - waking him - and suggesting he come in to the office. (as the project was in crunch mode, no time to hire a replacement due to learning curve / deadline, he was marginally better than nobody which was why his ass wasn’t fired already).
He mentioned that his car was being towed due to nonpayment of parking tickets. But that was OK as it was about to be repossessed.
He commented one day that maybe weed wasn’t such a good idea; his friends would come over, and they were going to go out somewhere, but they all wanted to smoke a joint first… and somehow never wound up going out after all.
He finally lost the job.
Last we heard, he was living in his ex-wife’s basement, so apparently he lost the house as well.
We never heard what happened with the original bankruptcy but given later events, we suspect he had had similar drug-related problems before that lost him jobs etc.
Very sad. He was a funny guy and reasonably competent at his job. When he showed up.
My wife’s sister is a study in bad life choices - all to do with her inexplicable love for her worthless sack of shit husband.
Marry an emotionally abusive, drug and alcohol addicted brute of a husband? Check.
Have a kid with the husband - with the effect that the husband immediately has an affair with a skanky neighbour? Check.
Neighbour seeks revenge when husband dumps her sorry ass by calling the cops and child welfare services on them? Check.
Give up well paid career to have yet another kid with him, in the belief that a second child will make him straighten out? Check.
Co-sign a huge line of credit against the house, run up massive credit card debts, because the husband wants fancy vacations and toys like a big power boat and a gun collection (and no doubt hookers and blow, the latter of which he was quite fond) and she wants to keep his affections? Check.
And where does this paragon of a husband work? Why, for GM of course.
Now she is getting divorced, with two kids, has a huge debt and mortgage and no income; he’s out on bail for attempting to strangle her, with a restraining order, and laid off …
Well, my ex serves as an example of how not to lead your life to our two sons. His example has actually kept them in college (one on to his masters); drug free; responsible; faithful and attentive to their women; and willing to do any honest work that they can find.
Bless their hearts, in the time honoured tradition of teen rebellion, my two sons became honest, hard working, and admirable young men. RoniaBorkason, try to stay in the wee tyke’s life and don’t be surprised if he isn’t fed up with his parent’s drama sufficiently by the age of 15 to become a self-directed and self-sufficient individual.
sigh
Unfortunately, my best friend is one of those people. She is incredibly smart, funny, interesting, wonderful, except when it comes to her boyfriend. He is 10 years older (He’s 40), works as a server sporadically. He’s the most irresponsible, lazy, unmotivated sack of crap. She works 65 hours a week, while he works 10 - 28. All the bills are in her name, she pays for everything. He breaks promises left and right, but it’s ok, because she “loves him”.
I’ve watched him systematically undermine her self-esteem, break promises daily and overall turn her into a shell of a woman, but when I try to say something, it goes in one ear and out the other. See, because I’m single, I just don’t understand what it really means to be in love.
If that is what love is, I’ll keep my singledom. Thank you.
Well, just to keep y’all updated, they got in safe Sunday night. They stopped in Provo with his sister Saturday night. Why Colorado is better than Utah, I don’t really understand, since they are already Mormon and have family there.
I was mistaken about them heading to Denver, they are in Colorado Springs, just where There Goes a Tenner says its the worst. They are staying with Doreen’s friend Kiki at Kiki’s parent’s house. If Lars doesn’t find a job in the next week or so(:rolleyes:), he’ll send Doreen and the baby home and keep looking there. I’ll try to update when/if he gets a job. :dubious:
I had a friend in high school who got pregnant (intentionally, some of my other friends and I suspected) by a guy her mother despised. This guy didn’t have a place to live, either, and they ended up camping out in a tent for a while. I wonder what became of them…
