So there’s a woman at work that I like, her name is Charity, and I’ve yapped about her in a couple of other threads. I’m 33, she’s 23, she has a 3 year old kid, she’s living paycheck to paycheck, I’m living with my dad, etc. We’ve chatted a good bit, I’ve made her laugh, we have a decent time together, granted that the only time we are together is work, but still.
A little over a week ago, I asked her if she’d like to get a drink or something sometime. She said that she and her ex were trying to be friends and that she didn’t really feel like having to deal with all of the hurt that can come with a relationship, but that yeah we could have a drink sometime.
Then last week while I was out, Charity and some of my other co-workers made plans to go out on Friday night. I heard about it after things were kinda, sorta, firm and I didn’t do the whole ask if I could tag along like a late-comer thing, for several reasons, the big one being that I just felt wrong about doing it.
Then last Friday rolls around and everyone is bailing on the plans to get together, leaving Charity alone. I know, how sad.
So, she and I are walking through the building, and she says that she’s going to be all alone in her apartment, and she’ll have no one to drink with. I almost said (in a joking/serious manner) that the first step to being an alcoholic is spending the night drinking by yourself, I have very personal first hand proof that this is indeed true and almost asked if I could come over and have a drink with her.
But I didn’t.:smack: :smack:
Then when we got out to her car, we were talking and she asked me, “What are you going to do this weekend?”
Again, I almost asked her if I could come over and have a drink with her but once again, I didn’t.:wally :smack:
As to why I didn’t ask her if I could come over when it was seemingly apparent that it was just going to be Charity all by herself, well I guess it goes back to her saying that she didn’t feel like having to deal with a relationship and all the stuff that goes with it. Of course, you could argue that she and I don’t even have a relationship…I don’t know.
So, was I just ignoring her signals or did I take them the wrong way? Am I a hopeless idiot when it comes to women.
Go ahead, be bluntly horribly truthful.*
*But please be gentle.