For those who need it explained, I was making a joke about the difference between somebody who was willing to hold a friend’s penis and somebody who was eager to hold a friend’s penis.
Ah, gotcha. Sorry!
So am I the only person thinking of salad tongs like the episode of 2 1/2 Men?
Um, even if you WERE/ARE gay, what you did was in no way “homosexual”. It was a loving, noble thing you did, helping a friend through a rough time. (And bravo to you! You were a good friend…geez, not everyone would help out with such intimate tasks)
Your homophobic buddies were just idiots.
No, it wouldn’t. Again - an act in itself does not make something homosexual. It’s only because in western culture we have equated any sexual interaction between people of the same gender as homosexual that you think that way. In other periods of history without the gay taboo men would do stuff either with or too each other and not consider what they did gay, or themselves gay.
Also, in the context of that example, masturbating someone because they can’t do it themselves is in my mind an extension of toilet assistance, so I still wouldn’t consider it a sexual act (you can do it whilst watching TV and not even looking, for one thing…).
Well, as I have said, we lived directly across the street from each other from the time we were four years old. After the accident, he was hospitalized for quite a long time and after he was sent home, he was confined to bed for some time. Of course his family cared for him during that time but I visited him daily—it wasn’t as if I walked miles to see him; he lived directly across the street from me. When he was deemed able to walk for exercise, his older sister accompanied him and I went along just to lend him moral support. As he improved, I spent more time outside with him than his sister did; after all, she was probably sixteen or so and she had her own interests. As his mother and father gained more confidence in his recovery, they began driving us to the local movie theater; when we were ready to come home, I called his parents and they came to pick us up. While we were attending the movie, I provided whatever help he needed. By the time he was allowed to return to school, I had become sort of his designated assistant. I wasn’t, by any means, his full time caregiver; I was just his friend and when he needed help with something he couldn’t manage for himself, I was the guy he looked to for assistance.
You did exactly what Jesus would have done. Whether you find that comforting, I don’t know, but there it is.
FWIW, I’m pretty sure Jesus would have healed the guy.
Homo=same
sexual=sexual
Dio is, strictly speaking, correct. A person who normally engages in heterosexual activities may engage in homosexual activities sometimes, and vice versa; a gay man can have heterosexual sex, a straight woman can engage in homosexual activities. You’re confusing orientation with act.
Add me to the unanimity (god, I butchered the spelling of that at first) saying this wasn’t gay, homosexual, etc.
Daniel
Yes it does. It doesn’t necesarily make the person homosexual, but a sexual act is a sexual act.
Would you give your dad a handjob?
I’d say the moral of the story is you shouldn’t allow teenage assholes to define your identity.
Not homosexual, but definitely unusual for two young boys. I had a close friend, apparently close enough that some people thought we were gay! But I’ve never seen his unit and honestly I don’t think I could have done what the OP did, especially if he had family around to help.
When you are a teenage asshole yourself, the opinion of your teenage asshole peers is very important. Besides, as I have alluded to before now, fist fighting among teenagers in that time and place wasn’t at all uncommon; most of us had John Wayne complexes as it was. If someone insulted you, and being called a queer was a deadly insult, if you didn’t call the someone out, then you were, by default, either a coward or a queer. Things were much different back then, believe it or not. Civil rights had never been heard of and homosexual activity was illegal and people were arrested and imprisoned for engaging in what polite society called “the crime against nature.”
But his family were not around 100% of the time; when they were not, I did what I could to help him. I have no doubt that he would have done the same for me. And I’m sure that you could do the things I did; the alternative would have been to allow him to urinate and/or defecate in his pants. Would you willingly subject your best friend to that sort of humiliation? I’ll grant you it was unusual but so were the circumstances. One didn’t often encounter friends in casts that extended from their necks to their waists, with both arms broken and immobile.
Yeah, but what if we lived together on a houseboat in the harbor at Tiburon? Or Sausalito? And what if we went to Finochio’s after Liza’s concert? What then?
Having never been asked to do so, I can’t say for sure I wouldn’t. But I don’t think I would have, just being honest. Maybe I could have used gloves or tongs for the peeing part, but the ass wiping? I just can’t picture it.
Yes I’m not a great caregiver, god help you if you get sick around me.
Anyway I don’t think it’s homosexual unless you were aroused by it. Just very considerate.
That says a lot about our society, and your friendship.
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I do find it comforting and I thank you for saying it. I thank you from the bottom of my heart for saying it; it is a thought that has never crossed my mind.
Okay okay, if you’re going to hit me with a dictionary rather than try and understand the point I’m making then by all means go ahead.
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Ewwwwwww.
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Not as long as my step mother is around to do it for him.