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I knew a teenager ages ago who had a t-shirt that said “Made in Colombia. Born in the USA.”
We might need more words than English is offering us in order to come to the shared understanding that I suspect we have.
To me, the word “victim” suggests really horrific experiences - the loss of everything due to the ravages of war, one’s personal property and one’s entire community lost due to raging wide fires, first hand suffering of the effects of structural inequities due to race or gender.
I am probably wrong - after all, phrases such “she was a victim of her own success” exist.
But I would like to claim a difference between people who are legitimately pissed off due to references to their tallness, red hair, etc, and people who suffer because they are part of a genuinely oppressed group, had the misfortune to live in a strife-ridden zone, or were disproportionately affected by global warming.
I see a significant difference in the level of victimhood for someone who gets annoyed because their height is remarked upon, and someone who suffers because their gender is considered second-class, they are poor, etc.
Alas, all of them are “victims.” I wish the language could be more specific.
What if the cop said what she said to a woman who actually was an achondroplasia dwarf?
My wife had a pickpocket dip into her purse on the Paris Metro. Pickpockets work fast; they dip in and go, without usually getting a clear idea of what they’re grabbing. So my wife didn’t lose her wallet; instead, the thief grabbed and took a case that had my wife’s expensive sunglasses.
This is not a horrific consequence. It’s just a pair of sunglasses. So clearly my wife cannot have been a victim of pickpocketing. She is, therefore, a _____ of pickpocketing. Please fill in the blank for us.
Sounds like you need more Raymond Briggs in your life.
If you don’t know the author he is gently satirical, presented in a beautiful comic style. Most of his work is aimed at children, but some dark stuff wrapped in comic format too.
There’s a difference, certainly. I have never argued otherwise, and indeed have clearly stated there is a difference, however, I would argue that, whilst some of your dividing line is a reflection of the real world scales of tangible harm, social disadvantage and malicious intent, I think some of it is drawn by your trivialisation of the things you identify to be below the line.
‘legitimately pissed off’ seems to me a really weak summary of the possible mental state of a person who has been subject to a persistent campaign of verbal abuse.
I agree that it’s weird that we only have one word ‘victim’ for a very broad scale of things, but I think that’s typically handled by context eg: Scam victim, murder victim, prank victim, genocide victim…
Sorry, I’m missing something. What cop?
Whoops, sorry … I belatedly realize you meant the policeman referred to by the OP. The word “cop” (not used in this thread until your post) threw me due to unrelated topics in my real life where I am careful to consider whether “cop” might be less respectful than “policeman” or “policewoman” or better yet, “police officer.”
Hope this isn’t too much of a hijack, but this seemed like a good chance to post this link:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KVN_0qvuhhw&ab_channel=TimMinchin
Missed post #146, evidently.
Are you not responding to my question because I used the word “cop”? (When I post on my phone I tend to shorten things when I can, as it’s a pain to hunt and peck with one finger.)
I did indeed.
It’s not. Nothing wrong with it.
Pig, Fuzz, or Fuzzball are disrespectful.
We don’t! 
Not at all. I think the “compliment” was demeaning regardless of whether the woman had any specific condition. And I don’t think a glare at the cop (thanks @pkbites) was out of line. Does that answer your question?
I’m feeling attacked (because when I posted a hypothetical I switched Lisa’s name for Sylvia’s 
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Overall I would expect professionals who serve in a public capacity to have some tact in their interactions with people. Keep one’s opinions about shape size hair style appearance to one self. Perhaps profiling based on appearance is her strong suit?