What has got your knickers in such a twist about this?
They didn’t shake any booty–have you been out dancing recently? The dancing was mild and not at all raunchy.
You can think what you like, of course. I just don’t understand why a wedding must needs be solemn and portentous (or pretentious, as so many of them are these days. Cisco said he thought this couple were attention whores–how so? How is every couple that gets married not attention seeking? You have asked people to come witness your vows ferchrissake).
This was not a polished, professional video, nor was the dancing. But as an expression of happiness, it can’t be beat.
For all we know, the ceremony turned solemn when it came time for them to exchange vows. I highly doubt something this well planned was entered into lightly or without due thought on both sides. Dancing down the aisle is no guarantee of future happiness or compatibility, but it works well as an expression of their feelings.
Your insistence that we all “worship” this video and hold it up as if for some sort of standard for future weddings is ridiculous. Most of the posters here are saying that the video made them smile–is that ok with you?
The bride said in an interview that the minister was her cousin, and was in on it in advance.
I LOVE this video. I’ve seen it 3 times and have cried every time (while smiling and laughing too). It’s weird, because I think the music sucks, and is only bearable because of the dancing. If I had anything to say about it, which of course I didn’t, I would have asked why they chose a song by a man who beats up on women. Either they don’t know or don’t care, and that’s too bad.
But, still and all, it’s a lot of fun and I’m glad I saw it. As of this posting, it hasn’t even been up a week, and it already has 5 and a half million views!
Attention! There will be no celebrating at joyous occasions! Joy is also strictly forbidden! The term “celebrate a marriage” is a figure of speech only and should not suggest actual merriment!
Anyway, if they were really cool they’d have done Thriller.
Well, I don’t think it’s “best evar!!1” and I certainly wouldn’t have inflicted that on my bridal party, but frankly, most weddings really suck. They’re all so very much the same and something to just get through. I say this as someone who had the same attitude about her own wedding. So it’s nice to see something different that doesn’t require gobs of money to do.
Definitely not something I’d ever do. It looks like they had fun - good for them - but it’s too far into non-traditional for me. You can still keep pretty far from stuffy and somber without resorting to dance music in the church. I’m getting married in April, and I feel like it’s such an important and meaningful moment in my life that I’d be cheapening the ceremony by making it into a party. The party is later, the party can be insane, but the ceremony where I’m pledging myself to my man forever… I just don’t see how dance music is appropriate for that.
I felt the same way you did, Scarlett. I wouldn’t do it in a church but it would be fun to see as the entrance to a reception.
My thoughts upon seeing it that it was more about a couple (and probably specifically the bride) that was more interested in having the wedding be ‘different’ and ‘special’ than in acknowledging the solemnity of the vows they were about to take. I think there is a time for everything and the time to dance to a hip-hop song isn’t in a church during your wedding processional. I guess I’m just another one of those traditionalists.
My daughter has promised me she will not dance down the aisle at her wedding, and in exchange, I have to ensure that people do not clink glasses for the bride and groom to kiss. She loathes that custom.
There are numerous denominations in which dance is a regular part of every worship service.
Ironically, they’re also the denominations that would’ve frowned on this particular type of dance.
Somewhere there is a middle ground. I thought this was entirely respectful, no one was shaking anything raunchily, no one bumped or ground anything, no one shimmied their stuff. It was just a lot of happy movement, and one chubby dude who could walk on his hands, which is always pretty awesome.
Traditional wedding music is hardly sacred music. The Bridal Chorus from Lohengrin is a prelude to betrayal, murder, and heartbreak. The typical recessional from Midsummer Night’s Dream, an opera based on a play where everybody is bewitched and falls in love with the wrong people. Nobody has any problem with these being played in church.
Personally I ankled down the aisle to “Not Fade Away” but I wasn’t in a church. I thought it was a lot more appropriate than some old opera music (although the bit about being bewitched and falling for the wrong person has some resonance for me, but only after a few decades of marriage).
My thoughts exactly. I thought it a great change of pace from the traditional wedding fare, and I’m sure the couple had a great time planning the event. I doubt they did it for ‘attention whore’ reasons at all; looks like they just wanted to have some fun taking their vows. Whether or not it was “inappropriate” for that church is not the decision of anyone in this thread–clearly the church, minister, and all members of the wedding party were fine with it, so why not? I didn’t see God smiting anyone, nor did I see any indication that the couple wasn’t going to take their vows–or their marriage–seriously.
It may not be your thing, and you might’ve groaned internally were you sitting in the church, but the thing to remember at a wedding is that it’s not your day, and it’s not your place to piss on anyone’s parade.
I requested our recessional to be the “Hallelujah Chorus” from Handel’s Messiah. Not out of any pious reasons, but because I was going to be glad that the worst part of the whole wedding planning/doing process was over!
My friend who was a bridesmaid and sung a solo during the wedding says that besides the usual “Ave Maria” requests, she received one version that, when translated into English she discovered that the singer basically asked God to keep men away from her and keep her pure! :eek: Sooooo not a wedding song. (I think it may be this version but am not sure.)
The music director for our wedding did. He explained that while he knew Here Comes The Bride was traditional, it was based in a play scene about rape and humiliation and yadda yadda yadda.
I asked him if it was ok that my wife and I were gay people getting married.
Definitions change – Here Comes The Bride means “hey, the bride is coming down the aisle now”, and nothing more.
Perhaps the wedding was before Brown’s crime. Anyway, count me as one who doesn’t believe a person’s bad behavior renders their good work unusable.
Brief hijack- are “Here Comes the Bride” (Wagner) or the Wedding Recessional (Felix Mendelsson, Jewish convert to C’nity, IIRC) avoided by most Jews in weddings?
I didn’t start out with my knickers in a twist. They got twisted when I got attacked for saying in a few short sentences that I didn’t like something that is very popular. I didn’t come in here with guns blazing knocking everyone else for what they thought, making personal judgments on their character. I didn’t say nobody else was allowed to smile at this video; I just said that I didn’t.
I wasn’t pissing on anyone’s parade or implying that they didn’t take their vows seriously. Jesus, read much into stuff that isn’t there? I don’t even know these people, I was never in a position to influence what they did at their wedding, and they’ll likely never even see what I said. And even if they did, like I’m sure they’d care about the opinion of some anonymous person on the Internet.
I actually sat on my hands since this thing came out, and originally decided not to say anything because I figured I’d get popped for it. Finally I post one small statement expressing myself, and you jump down my throat. Thanks for the validation, I guess, that some people just can’t handle the existence of another viewpoint. (And I’m the one who should lighten up?)
I apologize for having my own opinion and expressing it here. I’ll bow out now and let the smilefest continue. Perhaps you can go after the others in this thread who’ve expressed similar dissenting views and attempt to beat THEM into agreement.
I loved this, and it was obvious to me that the church gave their stamp of approval on the whole thing. I find it refreshing and actually joyous. I think that’s what weddings ought to be.
