Oooooh… etiquette smack-down!!
You do realize we can go back and read what you said earlier, right?
What you said, that I quoted, was:
That was two posts before the first mention of “it’s the bride’s day.”
Treating weddings “like performances in which every participant’s actions are scripted and controlled” - maybe you didn’t use the word ‘Bridezilla’ in that post, but you described the condition aptly enough. It wasn’t like you were saying anything new by using the word itself later.
On the other hand, Shodan’s mother knows that the plural of “tux” is “tuxes”.
nm. Forgot to refresh. Again. Sigh.
I think I’ve said enough about my feelings in this matter to make any response to this superfluous.
This and “a pedestrian has the right of way” are both correct.
In theory.
I’ll leave it to the reader to decide the risk of trying to enforce either in reality. Oddly enough, though, the results will likely be the same…
Some wedding dresses are understated. So I could see a clueless but well-intentioned mother-in-law thinking her dress wouldn’t necessarily overshadow the bride’s.
However, the pictures. The bride, understandably, wants to be the one wearing white so that she stands out. It’s not about being Bridezilla. It’s about wanting your picture to look the way you want it to.
I say the only way it wouldn’t be tacky is if the mother-in-law asked bride and groom if it was alright and they gave their consent enthusiastically. But I think if you’ve got to ask if something it’s alright, you’re probably skirting the edge of appropriateness.
This can often be prevented if the bride wears sufficiently thick stockings under her dress.
Oedipus, is that you?
I thought it was “tuxen.”
The plural of tux is ti.
Tuces
I thought it was Monkey Suits.
I once attended a wedding with a man who was friends with the groom’s side of the family. He warned me ahead of time that they were a bit…“off.”
Yes, the future MIL wore white. Pure white satin with lace. :eek: No pearls, no veil, and the dress was knee-length, but I was still shocked.
The bride, 8 months pregnant, also wore white satin. :dubious:
While she was walking down the aisle, the groom bounced the red dot of a laser pointer back and forth across her breasts. :smack:
It was…um…very interesting.
(I gotta admit, the reception was a blast!! 
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I saw the Dear Prudence column today and remember seeing at least one advice column in the past where a bride-to-be had heard that a guest planned to wear her own wedding gown to the ceremony. So I too was wondering how common this sort of thing might be.
Someone suggested this to Prudence, and she said that if it was just a regular dress then this should be a nonissue. She felt it was safe to assume it was a “real wedding dress”. FWIW the bride-to-be who wrote in didn’t come across as a “Bridezilla” type who’d make a big deal about a dress that wasn’t obviously a wedding gown. She said she wasn’t so much concerned about what her future mother-in-law wore as she was about what message future MIL was trying to send.
And in ancient Rome the entire wedding party dressed in identical clothes to confuse the evil spirits.
I was going to say Targaryens, but sure.
What’s a no-no is wearing anything that could be worn as mourning clothes to a wedding. You don’t want to be mistaken for someone protesting the wedding by coming in mourning clothes. I don’t kn ow if anyone has ever actually done this, but apparently it used to be a common threat.
Yeah; my wedding dress came off the rack from a little shop where I paid $24.50 for it. It was blue, and I’ve worn it again, although, not to a wedding that I can recall. I look terrible in white, and I don’t like clothes that are confining. Or laughably expensive.
I don’t remember Emily Post ever tackling that one.
My nicest suit is a black pinstripe. It’s what I always wear to weddings (and funerals, and job interviews). I never considered that it could be some sort of fau paux. It never crossed my mind that anyone would be paying the least bit of attention to me or what I was wearing. I seem to recall other men wearing similar things but maybe they were navy rather than true black.
I gather that your mother has a black belt in Disapproving Gaze. Does she wear it to weddings, or does her sense of propriety force her to be willing to unleash it upon people who have not been adequately warned?