Am I the only person who thinks getting (or making) a gift ONLY for one half of the wedding party is a bit rude? I mean, I really like Anthropologie, but I think I would have found it rather odd if one of my wedding guests had purchased a sweater or something for me from there as a gift. Sort of a ‘Screw You Spouse - get your own damn gift.’
YMMV and all that.
OP - I agree with everyone who said check their registery.
I think this would be the perfect gift. And it’s only $54.
So very sorry, my bad, I meant to say matching fishing vests. As in, one for her and one for him.
And I agree, that would be very, very, rude!
I’d either give a gift to charity in their name, or buy a gift that’s clearly something for his new bride-to-be.
BTW, what is Heifer.com? I went to their website and it’s still not clear to me.
I have the perfect gift for folks like that. It serves all the purposes you list, not to mention the joy of watching the pretentious pretend they know what it is! Muwahahaha!
Job one is to find out what their silver pattern is.
Job two is to go to a place like replacements.com and find 2-3 overly specific serving utensils. Berry spoons are a good bet for under $20. Fish knife, a sardine fork, a bone holder, a butter pick, a cake breaker. All gloriously materialistic and sure to become bragged-upon treasures. And all surprisingly inexpensive.
So, start with the silver pattern, then go here: List of piece types and pick something interesting. Then search the site or even Google at large for the combination of pattern/piece. You needn’t stay in-pattern of course, for the more antique items, but folks who are big on looks and low on discernment are generally all about “Matched Sets.”
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Heifer.com: They provide farm animals for people so they can raise their quality of life. Cows, goats, pigs, sheep, llamas, bees for milk, meat, wool, honey, and other commodities, and the animals can reproduce so the beneficiaries can pass on the offspring to their neighbors. A very highly regarded organization with low overhead.
I think you’re over thinking it. If they have a registry, use that. If they don’t, ask them if they’ll have one. If you don’t want to ask them or they don’t bother, then just give them a check or cash in the amount you can afford. As I understand, for most couples, especially if they’re already living together, or in this case, have someone else providing for their needs, cash is a lot more useful than a toaster or a gift card to Bed Bath and Beyond.
Another option is to give them a gift that has mostly sentimental value. Maybe some old photographs or if you do any sort of craft you could make that, or if you’re an artist or photographer, you could give them an original, or if you’re a poet or writer, you could give them a nice printing of that which could be done quite inexpensively and still have significant meaning.
Or, quite frankly, you don’t have to give them anything. I wouldn’t feel guilty about it either. I think a gift makes sense for a couple that has needs, especially if they’re just starting their life out together and they have to overcome the cost of the wedding, so a little something helps there. But it doesn’t sound like they have any need nor that it would be appreciated and it’s unfair to you to put yourself in a difficult situation out of a sense of obligation. Afterall, the point of a wedding is to share the celebration of their union with their friends and family, not to scam people out of gifts and money. If anything, it would be rude of them to expect gifts from those they know are stretching their budgets thin as it is.
Trophy case
Wedding trophy with a tent or fish or car (or all 3) on top
Bulk pack on fancy looking blank certificates and printing software.
Expensive his and hers hand mirrors
Or, consider getting a cashmere sweater that’s been discounted due to a barely visible red dot. No one will ever notice.
Where are they registered? Just find something not very expensive and get it. You can probably take care of the whole thing in a few minutes online.
A bottle of top of the line booze? You can start saving a couple dollars a week to avoid sticker shock. It will blend in real nice on one of their wet bars. I don’t think you can mail it though.
This is right on the money. Charity gifts are so lame.