So I’m all set. I’ve got the ring, I’ve got her parents’ blessings, and I’ve actually got the gumption to go through with this. (I feel a lot like I’m about to toss myself out of an airplane.)
The plan is to take her to the park next Sunday and go canoeing for a nice little picnic on the water–and then, bam, hit her with the proposal. (We’re on the water and she can’t swim–where’s she going to run to?) The only catch is that we’re in Michigan, and the weather can easily turn bad at this time of year. Hence, I might have to scrap those plans if it’s too cold or raining.
I need alternatives. Can the teeming millions post their proposal stories here so I can be inspired with a backup plan?
Well, you can also pop the question when she’s naked and half-asleep after welcoming you home from a two-week trip. Whipping the ring out is a little problematic in that sort of situation, though. On the plus side, though, she’s not real likely to run out of the house naked to get away from you. Of course, this only goes over well with a certain type of woman, so use your own discretion.
My husband and I were at a beach cottage. He said he had some shells to show me. The ring was in the 3rd shell! Boy was I shocked…so shocked that it took me a couple of minutes to reply- but then, I startle easily;)
My dad froze my mom’s ring in an ice cube tray. Then put it in her drink!! I thought that was highly creative, albiet a little dangerous. (She could have choked on it.)
Good luck LosIpsaLoquitor ! Let us know how it goes.
This is sort of the method that Mr. S used – only I wasn’t half asleep, and he’d only been gone five days. He didn’t have a ring, though, and I still razz him for never having ASKED me to marry him – he just sort of mumbled, “. . . we could get married or something . . .”
On the last anniversary of the proposal I really got on him about, and he kept proposing to me all day. I turned him down every time. “First of all, it would be nice if you could at least put your tea down when you ask me. Second, a proper proposal is not usually delivered while standing over the kitchen sink.” What a loser. We’ve been married nearly 13 years, and he still hasn’t managed to ask me to marry him and get “yes” for an answer.
Congratulations, Res!!! - Is she Catholic? If so, you could set an appointment for pre-wedding classes and ask her to check her calendar to see if the first date is free. When she asks why, show her the ring and tell her what the dates are for.
Geez people, I’m Gay and even I can figure out these are pretty lame ways to suggest you and the person you love should make a commitment!
There has to be a really spectacular restaurant with a nice view somewhere in your area.
How about a “special” place that you two have good memories…the school gym, the bar, the late night parking spot.
Call the local radio station and ask if you can ask on-air (they love stuff like that).
Have a pizza delivered, and then really have a catering service, and violinist show up at the door.
But the easiest, and best…at her place or yours (or do you live together?)…whatever…FILL the place with flowers, candles, great music and a dinner…when she walks in, she will know immediately what is up. Even better, hang a banner with “Will You Marry Me?”. (Won’t that make a nice thing to rehang 25 years later for a renewal of vows!)
Congrats, RIL.
The gooti and I got engaged in October. On a trip to England-- after a drive to Bath, England, I proposed on the upper level of the Roman Bathhouse. I figured it would leave more of an inpression than sitting on our couch in the suburbs.
But, my advice is really simple:
Make sure that you are in a good location–something she’ll be happy to remember. I think the canoe is a great idea. If you have to go to a backup plan, don’t do it in your basement or in an elevator.
Make sure you catch her off gaurd. As anxious as you’ll be all day, play it cool – don’t let her know you’re up to anything. Also, show her the ring before you ask her…Savor the few seconds of “is this what I think it is ?” :eek:… :)… :D. It was a pure delight to watch the transformation from confusion to ecstacy with my woman. As soon as she looks at you with the :eek: , ask her then.
I must be the most unromantic, unplanning guy on Earth. I asked B when we were in bed cuddling. Didn’t even have a ring (went about a week later to get her one … figured if I was going to spend any appreciable sum of $ on it, she might as well have her pick). Didn’t ask her parents (I’m marrying her, not them…).
But the bed is home to some fond memories, so there you go;)
If you’re going to pop the question at a restaurant, let me suggest you choose a place that’s already been around for many years (if not decades). That way, it’s much more likely the place will also be around years down the road for anniversary dinners and such. It’d suck to choose a newer or trendy place, just to have “your place” go out of business a couple years after you popped the question, and turn into a Starbucks or KFC.
Well, I don’t really expect to get married, but if I did, that’s certainly how I’d want the proposal to happen. All of this business about coming up with original, cute ways to propose strikes me as a bit fake; it’s not a stage production, after all. And since I dislike diamonds and don’t want an expensive ring, I’d prefer to have a chance to make my wishes known.
But then, I’m basically the Ebenezer Scrooge of weddings, so what do I know?
“First of all, it would be nice if you could at least put your tea down when you ask me. Second, a proper proposal is not usually delivered while standing over the kitchen sink.” What a loser. We’ve been married nearly 13 years, and he still hasn’t managed to ask me to marry him and get “yes” for an answer. 