Guys, would you rather be hefty/skinny and well-endowed, or have a great, six pack stomach, muscular body - either/or.
Women, which would you prefer for a mate?
(no “average on both counts is fine with me” comments…we’re talking either/or…great body, or huge schlong.)
a personality
I’d take skinny with a big, but not painful to women, schlong. I assume I could work out and muscle up.
If I had to choose, I’d go with the body, but honestly I wouldn’t care either way. I chose that as the preferred one because I’ve never really cared about that apsect of my body. My good friend Richard Growth thinks otherwise, judging from the emails he sends me.
Huge schlong = painful…bruised cervix=no fun. Why do guys thing well endowed is something worth having?
(Now gerkin-like also is no fun - but there is a reason that most men are average - average works).
Funny. I’m tall and skinny, and I’m told I’m somewhat well-endowed. Nothing freaky, but apparently bigger than average.
I never, ever, in my life worried about either the size of my dick or being skinny. I don’t know why. Women don’t really seem to be turned on by giant dicks. In fact, as Dangerosa says, they don’t really seem to like them. The fetishization of size seems to be a male thing. Not even just a gay thing, a male thing. Straight men want big dicks as much as gay men, the only difference being that they just want one for themselves.
I also think that straight men don’t have much opportunity to compare. They don’t see other men in an aroused state outside of porn, where the actors are probably selected for above-average size. Gay men, on the other hand, have presumably seen plenty of other guys, and thus probably have a more accurate idea of the range of size.
And the muscle thing, well, I never worried about that either. I just can’t put on muscle mass. Even years ago, when I was working construction and swinging a sledgehammer eight hours a day, I didn’t get any bigger. I got stronger, certainly, but no bigger. So who cares?
Well, considering I am both a bit overweight (30 pounds or so) and endowed pretty well beyond the average, but not to the extreme (or so i’ve been told by multiple partners over the past 20 years), I’d rather have the Great Body.
You do have to be a bit more careful with a larger, um, unit and certain positions which I find to be pleasurable are verboten because of discomfort to the female.
Besides, having a great body makes it easier to find clothes and such, and the whole world sees your body. More importantly, at least to me, the greater confidence and self-assuredness I’d gain from the great body would far outweigh the drawbacks of a smaller package, as long as it wasn’t a gherkin to the point where it caused issues of its own.
I’ll throw in my two cents, I don’t want well-endowed. It’s fun for short periods of time, but after a while it’s just a pain.
As for the other, personality is more important to women. If he’s not ugly, who cares?
I’d rather have a guy that’s skinny or a little chunky with an average to above average (not gigantic) weenie. Having a guy with rippling muscles may be fun as a novelty, but it’d wear off quick.
I’m a small big so a giant cock isn’t something that I hunger for. Not all the time anyway.
But overly muscular dudes don’t appeal to me either. Now, if it was my perfect body type versus big cock, the perfect body type would win any day. My recent ex had the most perfect body type but a small cock and I didn’t mind.
I don’t much care about the outside aspects of a lover, as long as his hygiene is OK and he isn’t so huge as to be painful. The hardware isn’t very important to me. The magic is all in the programming.
The best sex I have ever had was with a middle-aged, paunchy guy with average endowment. But oh boy, oh boy, could that boy foxtrot.
It ain’t the size of the wand that makes the magic. Give me a fellow who displays creativity, imagination, sensitivity, and a sense of playfulness.
Definitely great body.
That way, by the time they find out you’re not well endowed, it’s too late!
I’ll take the great body, please. I want to try this again!
Well-endowed. I have no use for someone who’s hung like a tic tac.
I think the disparity of opinion on the matter of size is interesting. I’ve always really enjoyed larger men, and fortunately I haven’t had to experience any really small ones. I mean, oral can only do so much, I get immense pleasure from the “filled-up” feeling a large member can give me.
I have never found it painful unless there wasn’t adequate foreplay. Maybe I’ve just been lucky, or maybe I’m built a little differently that accomodating a large one isn’t a problem for me. The average sized men were also fun for me, though, but like I said, I’ve never dealt with a really small one ( 'cept for that one I got out of).
At any rate, different strokes for different folks. Har har. 
Tons and tons of women care. YMMV, but my friends and I have discussed at length the pros of having a larger man.
And if it’s just sex, personality doesn’t mean much to me. We’re not talking marriage here, we’re talking SEX. Meow.
bolding mine, disclaimer: When you say mate, I am assuming you mean the person with whom you will spend the rest of your life. Your husband/wife/life partner. For all I know, you could be using mate in reference to a good friend (such as Australians do), but I wanted to define my understanding of the word before I offered my opinion.
The factor for choosing my mate? Neither. I’m going to make a judgment like that based on what I consider far more important factors.
For a fling? If* I were in the position to chose for a fling, it would depend on what I needed. If I just needed sex, member size might play into the decision. If I’m looking for a date for my high school reunion, then I might want a pin-up boy. 
Gobs of money!
I’ve already got the other two.
Mr. Ujest paid me to say that.
But not a lot, evidently…
Agreed, I’ll go with the six pack abs/great body thing. If we’re talking just talking about sex here I could care less if I’m hung like a Tic-Tac. Unless I’m hanging out at a nudist colony; it’s the great bod that’s going to get me laid more often. Probably won’t get the same woman more than twice, but hey variety has it’s advantages.
I’d take the geeky body–I have a distaste for “ripped” men etc.
I like nerdy looking (but they must be taller than me) professorial types.
I have never talked about the length of penis/sexual prowess with my girlfriends. Maybe because almost all of us are married (?) but even when single, I didn’t.
whatever floats your boat…