During a recent discussion with my friend, he was bemoaning the fact that he’s in deep credit card debt, stressed out at work, etc. I told him he ought to cut loose this weekend and relax. He was totally in the state of mind that any amount of fun requires money. The conversation drifted to the heart of the matter, his roomates. He has two roomates, one of which contributes very little financially and one which had been unemployed for a year.
I told him very bluntly that perhaps now would be a good time for him to explain that he cannot continue things with the way his roomates currently are, and that they need to find other places to live.
My friend was greatly offended by this remark, rebutting that it would be stupid to do that when both roomates are currently ‘getting back on their feet’. (Same thing that was said a YEAR ago). My reply was ‘tough love’. This thread isn’t complaining on how much of an idiot my friend is for letting it get this far, but rather the fact that I’ve stopped caring. The advice I gave him was in his best interest- he was the only one with the full-time job, it is his name on the apartment lease, if things got bad, he would stand to suffer the most. Since he is no longer willing to discuss it, I consider the matter closed and no longer have much sympathy over whatever shitstorm will eventually happen.