Some people feel that sharing too much of one’s inner life is bad for one’s emotional well-being. Some people also feel that others have no right to know certain things about one’s life.
I recently stopped going to church completely. I’m not hiding that information from anyone, but I’m not explaining why to anyone but my wife, because it is nobody’s business but mine.
I dunno. That sounds nice, but if your partner is a head-in-the-sand person, that information (whatever it is) might not be something they can really afford to be ignorant about.
I generally feel that if it’s something big I’m going to be judged for I’d better get it out into the open and let the judging happen. Whether I tell or don’t tell, I’m the person who did X or Y. I’ll give him the opportunity to reject or accept all of me, rather than rejecting myself on his behalf.