I’ll try to keep this short and to the point…
I’ve got this crazy girlfriend that, for some unknown reason, my heart just can’t live without. I’ve known her for a couple of years, but we’ve only recently, about 3 months now, started romantically dating. The best way I can think of to describe her is that she has this very warm shyness quality to her personality, and she is very cute… at least to me! If you need a mental picture of her, think of a young Audrey Hepburn… grace, dignity and charm!
Anyway, last night we spent the night together, this wasn’t our first time together, and while ‘doing it’ she takes the belt from here pants and puts it around her neck and asks me to pull on the ends of it… choking her. She says “it’s okay, it’ll be alright.” Now I’ve been ‘round the block a couple of times, although in this sleepy little backwoods conservative town things like this you only read about in books, I was quite unprepared for this. I never, not even in 12-jazillion years, would have expected this from her!
We have a great relationship and I’m not prepared to end it over this. I thinking along the lines of; I can see myself sharing the rest of my life with her. Maybe I’m getting a little ahead of myself here, but she really is that great!
We’ve only briefly discussed this afterwards and it seems like this is something she’s into. I’ve heard of asphyxiation during sex, but by no means thought I’d be involved with it. Having an open might and wishing to do whatever I need to satisfying her, I’ll go along with this… so, I guess IF we’re going to be doing this in the bedroom I want to make it safe, and I realize that ‘safe’ is a relative term here.
With a little research I came across this article… What’s the story on autoerotic asphyxiation? (http://www.straightdope.com/classics/a3_218.html). And from that article: “The problem is that it’s easy to go too far. As little as seven pounds of pressure will collapse the carotid artery.”
Seven pounds? Would it be safe, and ‘safe’ is still a relative term here, that something less than seven-pounds would be okay? Maybe using something that would break apart if it was pulled too hard? I need some ideas here, this is totally new territory for me.
p.s. I hope no one here is too easily offended. There isn’t a lot of sex related topics here, but I am, after all, looking for the straight-dope!