I think it is definitely useful and possibly necessary to understand what I’m doing on two levels: me talking about me in the process of seeking personal solutions, and me talking about an entire category of people to which I am claiming to belong in the process of trying to do sociopolitical change.
I am 58. I am partnered. I am not lonely and I am not suffering from an inability to meet possible partners.
That doesn’t mean I have not been in that situation in the past. I have been, multiple times, both before and after 1980 when I first came out. I could end up in that situation yet again in the future. So the personal side is not irrelevant.
But I think it is fair to say it is not my primary focus at the moment. I’m being a social activist about these personal concerns but the emphasis is on social activist, not personal concerns.
As a matter of fact, I would say that being directly outspoken on these issues has not tended to be good bait for enticing and luring women to me. I’m more free to make noise about it at the moment precisely because I have my personal solutions working for me and I’m secure in my relationships.