No doubt. This thread just illustrates how everyone is different in what is attractive to them. For instance, I like big, tall guys with broad shoulders (think football player type-build). I really think that no matter what you look like, there is someone out there who is attracted to your type. It’s fascinating to hear everybody’s opinion on what “does it” for them.
As for non-physical characteristics? I like outgoing men, who aren’t afraid to start a conversation, debate with me, or flirt shamelessly. If you can make me laugh (trust me, it’s not hard), then you’re in.
Dark and brooding. Or, as my friend refers to my taste, “the swarthy men collection.” On the other end of the spectrum is the punk/skater guys that I constantly drool over. But those are never the men I end up with, logically I know I am brooding enough for two people. So I fall for the goofy, happy guys. But not men who talk to fill up silence, ones who can be fun when it is fun time, and understand the value of quiet. And, as has previously been stated, when combined with the other attributes I enjoy, men who like kids make me a big ole’ pile of estrogen.
But the older I get, the more I realise it’s not a type, or a particular physical attribute. It’s chemistry, and if it isn’t there, it just ain’t gonna happen.
I find that I am attracted to personality a lot more than looks. I start to think a guy is more physically attractive the better I know his personality usually. I love a guy who can make me really laugh. I also like intelligence and the ability to have a good deep discussion about life the universe and everything. He also has to be sweet, understanding and willing to do anything for me. I like guys who are romantic and not afraid to say how they feel about anything and everything. I also seem to be attracted to guys who have blonde or light colored hair since I am dark brown myself.
Confidence. Ambition. Brains. Wit. I prefer a man who is more extroverted than I am, because I can tend to be a homebody. Nice eyes and hair are a plus. Must like football almost to the point of obsession. Must be open with his feelings–if something is obviously wrong, he’s not allowed to say “Nothing” when I ask him what it is.
Luckily, I have a man who has all that and a bunch more than I never even thought to look for.
Physically, I prefer men who are slender, on the tall side (why, I don’t know - I’m 5’2"), hairy, dark hair is best, esp with some grey, and beard/moustache
But, in the end, none of this matters. I’ve found that I absolutely require intelligence and an affectionate and humorous manner. Match this and I’ll find you attractive and the looks become a LOT less important.
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[li]Above-average intelligence (which here in the Boards, goes without saying)[/li][li]Full wit (vs. half wit)[/li][li]A good sense of humor that can be biting, but not cruel[/li][li]Courteousness and respectfulness[/li][li]Patience[/li][li]Decent height (Min. 5’9" – I’m 5’3")[/li][li]A good-looking face I won’t get tired of gazing at!![/li][/ul]
A guy that looks into my eyes when i see him and lets me know he is really glad to see me. Nothing beats knowing he wants to be here with me and not doing anything else.
According to my experiences tall women think that they want one thing and then persue something else.
I’m 6’7" and have dated women as short as 5’1" and as tall as 6’1", with several good friends considerably taller.
Everyone’s taller than the “shorties” (women under 5’5") so height is a non-factor with them. Even women of average height seldom get a chance to hook up with a man shorter than they.
But taller women are a completely different breed. Tall women under 6’ usually want men about 2 inches taller than they are. Women over 6’ usually have a built-in insecurity about their height and grab hold of the first guy that asks them out.
If your one of the exceptions that don’t care as long as he’s taller, then “more power to ya”!
A guy needs to be at least a few inches taller than me (I’m 5’5"), so 5’9" is a minimum. Two things I look at with all men that clue me in to the type of guy a prefer: good teeth and nice hands. Good teeth usually clues in that he practices good hygene; the nice hands (no bitten nails, clean, not too rough–but some roughness is ok) are also a clue to hygene and what he does. Nothing grosses me out more than dirt under the fingernails (unless he just came out of the garden). Other than that, I’m sort of open on other attributes, because beyond that, personality really comes into play.
So, personality-wise:
The ability to laugh is important. Brain cells are also important–he needs at least a few to rub together. He also needs to be able to communicate his emotions, without being ultra-sensitive. A working knowledge of Monty Python and Mel Brooks a plus. Must like music and going out to dance. A love of good food, wine, and eating out essential.
Sorry Rachelle but I’m not a post-count padder. I generally stay away from post-count parties and MPSIMS parties. Note that I even stayed out of the bar fight – and I love bar fights…
I proof everything that I post before it gets to the board because I detest posting things that are a difficult read. As soon as the message hit the board the error jumped at me and I instinctively kicked myself in the butt by slamming my own use of the English language.
Physically I like bald and bearded (See John Corrado’s pic on people pages ). Also, he has a good sense of humor, is confident, playful, and very quirky.
Hmmmm. Some of this is confirming my own experience. A few women have stated that they look for Tall in a guy, with JavaMaven setting 5’9" as a minimum.
I found this extremely frustrating during my dating days. I’m 5’7", and all the women seemed to be looking for six-footers (or more). Not all of them but a significant portion. It got so bad that at one point I actually tried lifts. It gave me a lot of sympathy for women who wore high heels. Ouch.
But it did seem as if 6’ height is to women as Big Boobs is to guys.
A guy who looks good makes me look at him,
but what counts for me is the brain,
what the person is on the inside.
Also I like eyes, they tell you a lot
about the person.
