i’m gonna go with… it is a nice gesture. her friends wanted to do something for her, to comfort her.
the necklace for him… ah… ummmm… that is interesting. i can see getting her a charm or locket, but him… emmmmm… that is were i’m a bit off put.
i’m sure she was comforted that her friends did this. sometimes people just don’t know what to do and back away and try to ignore that anything happened. they acknowledged her loss and found a way to memorialize it.
I recently engraved an plaque…a regular award plaque, like I do for “Salesman of the Quarter” for the Ford dealership…for a funeral. I assumed it was to have on display during the wake (viewing, visitation…whatever you call it wherever you are) but this was going directly into the coffin. Not on display beforehand and then placed in coffin…straight into the coffin, and they picked it up just a half-hour before the funeral. They spent nearly $100 to engrave a plaque with a Bible verse and their names…didn’t even put on the deceased’s name, or dates of birth/death…nothing personal about it. I found this a bit odd, to say the least. I of course took their money, but it was strange.
Thoughtful. I don’t think there’s any reason to assume they didn’t know her well enough to make such a gesture. The main thing would be to be mature about one’s reaction: what was the intention behind the gesture?
Imho there’s no doubt that the intention was good, so that’s the main thing. I, personally, wouldn’t do something like this, certainly not without discussing it with the person beforehand. But if someone had done it for me when my brother or my father died, I’d have been moved and grateful.