For the Rhymer clan, 2014 has been lousy with funerals: three so far. In all three cases there has been this odd (to me) pressure for people in the family to dress in matching ways. For one funeral, it was insisted that all the female Rhymers wear only cream-colored clothing, and all the males cream shirts and navy ties. For another it was insisted that everybody wear pink; my crazy sister went so far as to purchase pink ties for all the men and deliver them. For the third green was the theme.
I didn’t argue with the persons making this suggestions. But it seemed odd and pointless to me. No, more than pointless: missing the point. It was making the funerals more about spectacle than honoring the deceased, more about conformity than grieving the dead or comforting mourners.
Anyway: has anyone else encountered this phenomenon? Whether you have or not, what do you think about it?