I think this was done back in January, but it came up recently in my life and I just wondered if this is common or just a function of small midwestern towns. More and more, I find that I am dressed more formally than at least half of the other people at visitations.
We were attending the visitation of a good friend’s mother. Three men were wearing jeans and ball caps. (I was taught that men just do not wear hats indoors, unless they’re just at the store or something.) The mother of the widower was wearing fairly short white shorts and a black tank top (which, by the way, would’ve look fairly innapropriate in any setting due to her outfit not being large enough to accommodate her size.)
I know that visitations are typically less formal than funerals, but I’ve even seen people wearing sweatpants. IMHO, it is in poor taste and downright disrespectful (unless, as in the January thread, there’s kind of a theme going based on what the individual was like in life.) To me, the only exception would be healthcare/nursing home workers dressed in their uniforms coming straight from work. Several women who had cared lovingly for my Grandpa came to his visitation dressed thusly and we were very touched.
What do you guys think? I really have no problems with nice jeans or slacks and a nice shirt for visitations, but faded blue jeans, t-shirs, caps and shorts just really rub me the wrong way!