Funeral was about two years ago and now the headstone is finally ready.
Some of the family is going to the cemetery for some type of ceremony and then to a country club for lunch I guess - it will be about noon. Not like it’s a funeral.
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I’d say as long as it’s lowkey and subtle, it doesn’t really matter - maybe darker colors, not necessarily black.
Cool, got some black jeans.
Just do not care to get dressed up
Unless these are family members who know that you are always a casual person who doesn’t ever dress up for anything if you can help it, wearing jeans, even black ones, is going to look disrespectful. Wearing khakis and an oxford shirt would be better than wearing jeans of any color.
Well, black jeans wasn’t really what I had in mind - I was thinking more like dark Dockers, that kind of thing. No need for dress slacks, or anything, but I think jeans would be pushing it.
Probably anything that you can wear in a “business casual” office environment, if you’re familiar with that, would be considered acceptable in this situation.
Thong, shear thigh-high stockings (with the seam up the back), six-inch heels and carry a riding crop.
(Thats what I would want you to wear!)
Now THAT’S business casual! :eek: 
I would say it depends on your relationship to the deceased. If it were a family member or close friend I’d be wearing the black suit, white shirt and black tie, someone more distant, still a suit and tie: I’m old-fashioned about this kind of thing, but taking the trouble to dress properly is a mark of respect, no matter how casually you usually dress.
Damn! Underdressed again :o
But not that underdressed ** gatopescado ** - LOL
Sensible shoes. It might be muddy!