Oh, and to tie back to the sentiment heard often on these boards about how men like women with some flesh to them, some curves, etc…
I think it’s funny that (with my boobs and badonkadonk), for every one white guy who will hit on me*, I’ll have at least ten black or hispanic or middle eastern guys who will hit on me.** For all the guys who I’m assuming or remembering (from previous thread details) here who are white and claim to love a curvy shape, it’s funny that they, as a group, don’t really seem to hit on girls like me. I don’t really want to be hit on (I find it awkward), but those are the demographics I’ve found.
They will hit on my more slim-and-not-curvy friends, though. The ones that tend to fit the media ideal. Not saying that’s wrong or bad, but just interesting in the face of claims on the board.
defined as giving a body compliment, asking me out after just seeing me walking around, whatever.
** I’m making it sound like I have dozens of guys following me around. I’m talking over about a decade (I’m 26).
I agree with this for the most part. Still, if you describe yourself as such - ESPECIALLY on the internet - the assumption is that you’re large-curvy, not small-or-medium curvy. I don’t know if there’s any way to fix that.
I don’t blame large-curvy women for that - they have just as much a right to use the word as smaller-but-still curvy women do. I guess it would help if people realized that curvy alone doesn’t indicate size, just body type.
I’m glad someone brought this up. For all the curve-love, I’m 33 and most men that hit on me throughout the years were men of color. I still get appreciation from men of color. White men hit on my less curvy friends.
Also, just as an example, here are curvy, petite people, one more on the slender side than the other.
Here is a person built like a prepubescent child. Note the angle, and what Tyra* (herself curvy) calls “the butt-tooch”, meant to mimic the hourglass flare of the hip when it’s not apparent. Now Kate’s beautiful, but she’s never been attractive in my book.
In my experience, curvy women look better with their clothes off than dressed, so it’s hard to appreciate them in a lot of today’s fashions.
My definition of curvy is someone who has ample breasts, hips, thighs and belly. That can be someone who’s slim and fit, or someone who’s overweight.
Even at my leanest (working out daily and not eating enough), I wasn’t skin and bones. I’m naturally plush and have an hourglass shape no matter what I weigh. I don’t have big boobs, but usually do describe myself as “curvy” because of my small waist, wide hips and relatively broad shoulders that balance everything out.
Tonight at my belly dance recital, I was thinking of this thread. All types of curvy were present: skinny, slender, overweight, plush, athletic, young, old, etc. All pretty, all beautifully decorated, all dancing to the beat.
There were other body types, too… pretty and dancing to the music as well, but the other ones made me think of this thread.
Typical white guy here: I honestly don’t recall dating more than one or two women who might fall into the “slim-and-not-curvy” category. And I married a lovely, lovely woman who has curves. Just sayin’.
A couple case studies: When I see someone like Debra Messing or Gwyneth Paltrow on the small or big screen, I feel compelled to yell “eat a friggin’ cheesburger!” at the screen, because I fear that if they were to ever skip a meal (which I assume is something like a small Chai tea, four almonds, and a cigarette) they’d pass out from starvation. That doesn’t look good to me.
I just returned from the supermarket where I noticed one of the checkout “newspapers” had a front page story (with picture) “How Debra Messing Lost 42 Pounds.”!
That first paragraph is supposed to be in quotes as I am quoting a previous poster. I did something wrong.
It is. Like moonstarssun, even when I’m a size six or eight, and reasonably well-muscled, I’m still soft in all the right places. My Favorite Guy frequently describes me as “lush”, and it’s just one of the reasons I love him.
I am fat and curvy (much smaller waist than hips, more than 10 inches smaller). When I was my “supposed to be” size of 6/8 (still thought of as hugely obese in this brave new world), I was merely curvy. Now that I’m a fat old grandma, I don’t say or think of myself as “curvy” even though I still have the hourglass standard hip to waist ratio.
All that blah de blah said however, like a lot of people in this thread, I disagree with the tendency for some people to use “curvy” as a fancy word for “fat”.
What? Every person in those photos is fat. If “curvy” is supposed to mean something different than “fat,” then those photos are not good examples of “curvy.”
Agreed. I don’t think anorexics are attractive by any means, but neither are they. And I wouldn’t use the word “curvy” to flatter anyone.
Valete,
Vox Imperatoris
ETA: Atomicflea, I think the one you say is built like “prepubescent child” is more attractive, though obviously I don’t really agree with that characterization.
I’m talking over about a decade (I’m 26).
