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She was raised conserva-reform. Her husband-to-be was raised conserva-dox. Neither of them keep strictly Kosher, but neither of them eat lots of shellfish, pork, milk and meat, etc. etc. I think they are a little lenient about some of the actual dietary aspects – they eat catfish and so forth. They don’t want to go to the hassle of getting 2 sets of dishes, 2 sinks, strict separation, everything in the mikvah or buried in the backyard if it gets mixed up.
The Orthodox rabbi refuses to convert her if she doesn’t assure a kosher wedding with a kosher household. It is a big imposition, and she can’t change her whole lifestyle for a hairs-breadth of Judaism. Both she and her husband are reconstructionist Jews – they do not accept the infallibility of the Torah, nor do they actively wait for the messiah. But, they accept most of the social tenets (I would think apart from Leviticus) and they definitely feel Jewish and actively lead a Jewish lifestyle. Her husband reads Torah and leads services every Saturday in a conserva-dox chapel.
One step over that long, steep cliff.
As I understand it, like was said earlier, since David Ben Gurion agreed to base the Right of Return on Halachic principles (he was secular), the Orthodox have free reign on what they consider legal in Israel.
What bothers me is my wedding. By all means it was a Jewish-ly legal thing – we had a Kosher ketubah, the Sheva Brochas were said, my wife and I are as Ashkenazi as they come, etc. The thing is it was performed by my wife’s Reform rabbi, and without my knowledge (and before I signed), my wife’s witness happened to be her maid of honor (who signed in Hebrew). So, the ketubah ain’t kosher. The problem is not with Right of Return for my wife, for my future putative children, or for me, but rather, if in Israel, those future putative children would be Jewish mamzers (bastards).
I know this is quibbling with details, but Jews IMHO are always concious of 1930s Germany or 1490s Spain – from accepted, important members of society to targets of hate in under a decade.