Having seen what has happened over the last 12 + hours I am sure this is a BBQ Pit topic, so I am making it easy on the Moderators.
I don’t understand what is happening to the boards. I am not exactly a veteran of these boards, but have been posting to message boards for 5 years. I have seen people on other boards/chat rooms flame and hurt one another with serious consequences, it is important that we all keep a few things in mind here.
There is a human behind those words. Whether or not you react emotionally is up to you but the fact remains there will be people that do react, keep that in mind.
Have you ever, in your entire life, read an article in a newspaper or magazine that gets you hot under the collar? Enough that you write the editor of the publication or felt like you wanted to? I am sure a great deal of you have. Shows you that words on paper or on the internet can evoke emotions. In addition, if you didn’t have something to say I doubt you’d be here in the first place. This is a place to voice opinions and ask questions. It’s imminant that emotions will enter into these boards.
Message boards are slightly less than a chat room. I have seen heated arguments in chat rooms that put the recent happenings to shame, but the emotions are there none-the-less.
These and other message boards are a form of communication. It is up to you how you want others to perceive you, so do your best to convey, in words, what you mean.
I realize this is the BBQ Pit, but is it really in your best interest to have every other word be fuck, shit, asshole, fuckhead etc? Also, it is important that if you must be so overtly angry, keep it in here and keep it out of other boards.
I am ashamed that the moderators have helped fuel the most recent issue. I know that they are here for the same reason we are, but in my experience over the years, a Moderator or Forum Director whatever you want to call them should refrain from such outward displays. The Moderators and Admins should have a separate screenname for this behavior. Hey it has worked quite well on AOL and other boards (not that AOL is the model of decency, but in my experience helps.)
I have seen more people react stronger than the person who was feeling attacked, bullied or whatever. If you expect those people to stand by and not feel like they need to defend themselves only to belittle them for their reactions, you need to rethink what you are communicating. Some of you have been so hateful in your replies it’s kind of scary.
Just a few weeks ago someone posted a plea to the masses to put down the swords, paraphrasing here. We had many problems in December and now we are ending January and starting February with similar feelings. When some of you say “you did this, you did that, you fucker, you dick, you should die” really does nothing but make you look like an ass, sorry I had to say that. But it really lowers the levels of thoughtful conversation.
I am applying this to MPSIMS, Great Debates and in here even if this is the BBQ Pit.
I can’t emphasize enough that even if this is a message board, there are still human emotions involved. Words are words whether spoken or written.
Words have always been ways to communicate emotions and thoughts before there was the internet, now we can just do it faster and more efficiently.
Flame me if you will, but reread this and try to understand where I am coming from. I rarely care what others say regarding who I am or what they perceive me to be, but I am just trying to help restore some sense of civility, which even in the BBQ Pit can be an attainable goal.