Yes, because You know why they want to become fathers. Only to get kids, that’s why, some are planning it years ahead.
But seriously LadyMadonna.
Few years ago I saw a part of a TV-program ( don’t know title or anything ). It said the most usual fantasy by males was two women at a time and there practically were no other fantasies.
With women it was all these real and imaginary animals, space aliens, midgets, mummies and hooded guys jumping from the bushes swinging a knife.
And these were all normal housewives You meet everyday! And I have heard similar claims elsewhere too.
And You call men sick?
( Can’t give better cites than You do, You just gotta believe. )
A place I occasionally work at has a primary school next door to it. A couple of times I was in a bad mood on a slow day and found it was really heartening to take a break and watch the kids playing in the playground. Unfortunately as soon as I started I realized that everyone’s pedometers would be going crazy so I stopped that pretty quickly.
When I was of a similar age to those children I remember our class being taken for a walk in the area outside the school (it borders on rural). Our teacher ended up hurrying us all back to the school ahead of schedule because someone noticed a man “watching” us.
What sort of message? It will teach boys to KEEP IT IN THEIR PANTS. It will teach them that they don’t get to satisfy every sexual whim that they have. It will teach them that girls/women are to be respected. I don’t believe for a minute that it will harm the psyche of young males.
But young boys need to be protected, also. That’s for sure.
So you’re saying that if your young daughter’s unmarried male coach wants her to spend the night at his house because they have an early morning athletic meet the next morning, that you’d allow her to do that without reservation??
I can’t personally see how teaching boys that they are all barely-contained sexual predators likely to rape and molest girls/younger boys the second that no one is watching them could possibly go wrong.
That would be inappropriate in the extreme and even more unlikely to never happen.
1.Unmarried coach
2. Single athlete, no team to transport.
3. Far away competition.
4. Coach lives so much closer that the time factor is an advantage. I can’t imagine a situation where a coach lives that far from their athlete.
I feel your pain, honestly. There *aren’t going to be *any simple, comprehensive solutions to the problem of child abuse (sexual and otherwise).
As for us guys, I’ve worked with kids for most of my career, both before and after my own marriage/children. Many of them had been traumatized, and I had to consider whether I would take a ‘hands off, protecting myself against misinterpretation’ position, or let myself hug and such as seemed appropriate, knowing that I have a pure heart and many of those kids could surely use some ‘safe’ touching. I took that ‘risk’, such as it was, and never had any difficulties. I really felt touched and honored whenever a parent would entrust their kid to me, whether it was a boy or girl, for coaching, sleepovers, chauffering. I guess I’m saying to us guys that we should maybe also be careful to not let the Lady Madonnas of the world make us overly gunshy of relating with kids in healthy ways (YMMV).
There’s a happy medium between not allowing any unsupervised contact between all adult men and children (especially considering that family members like parents are far, far more likely to molest a child then strangers) and allowing sleepovers at the coach’s house. Like responsible, reasonable parenting.
Men should not be afraid to approach children that might be in distress, or be afraid to get into a career because they like mentoring and interacting with children, for fear of being branded a predator.
It seems pretty clear to me, at least, that you really dislike men, and are using statistics about a tiny minority of men to justify your intense misandry.
No, I wouldn’t. The scenario you laid out would be a giant red flag. Like I said, it’s inappropriate in the extreme.
It is not equal to someone coaching youth.
LadyMadonna, have you ever heard of a TLC show called Toddlers and Tiaras? Which gender is most responsible for tarting up little girls by painting Vegas showgirl make-up on their faces, teasing their hair and encouraging them to behave seductively? Which gender paints up toddlers to resemble miniature, sexy women? And the network responsible for bringing footage of this circus to the masses, any blood on its hands? And what of the numerous commercial sponsors of this popular program? Are any of the parties responsible female? Do you feel that this program contributes to mixed signals that could lead to the sexualization of kids?
You are so right in that most child sexual abuse is committed by a family member or someone that the child knows.
You mentioned that only a “tiny minority” of men are abusers. How do we know that for sure? How do we know how many haven’t been caught? And with those that have not offended, how do we know that they’re not thinking about it?
You’re calling it “responsible, reasonable parenting”. I’m calling it being proactive. Either way, aren’t we both saying THE POTENTIAL OF ABUSE EXISTS??
Are you for real? How do we know for sure that aliens haven’t taken over our government? How do we know for sure that the president is not a secret terrorist? This is perhaps the most ridiculous thing you’ve said in this thread- and there’s a lot of competition.
Wow. I suggest you invest heavily in mind-reading technology.
Yes, and there are smart ways to be safe, and stupid ways. One way to reduce the chance of your kid being molested would be to prevent him/her from contact with any human being, in any situation, until he/she is 18. This is a stupid way. A smart way is to get to know your neighbors, your kids’ teachers and coaches, your kids friends and their parents, etc, to make sure your child is equipped to defend him/herself (kicking/screaming etc) if someone tries something, to teach your kid that crowds/public places are generally safe, while alleys/closed rooms might be less safe, and other common sense parenting.
There’s no evidence that any more than a tiny minority of men abuse children. I see no reason to believe anything that has no evidence to support it.