In the Great Debates forum, there’s a thread ‘Dear Woman video - pretty amazing’, and I’m not at all a fan of the OP’s video post. After criticizing it I was told:
Which is true I guess; but I wanted to talk about something that’s been bothering me… And though the video/thread enticed me to make this post, I want to distance myself from it because, I think it’s really stupid.
Since I started getting older and started dating, I’ve been hearing awful stories about women, (who I’ve met or dated), that have been sexually abused or taken advantage of sexually.
I’m not talking about a girl who gets too drunk and regrets sleeping with someone after she wakes up in the morning in some strange bed. I don’t believe pornography objectifies women. I even believe in legalizing prostitution. I’m also the type of person that thinks men should be considered, as well as women, when talking about equality, (what about the men in the business of pornography or prostitution?) Things like the Duke lacrosse case really pissed me off. But I digress…
I know WAY too many women who HAVE been hurt. I don’t know what to do about it. I just can’t imagine how many men there are out there who are willing to abuse these women. It’s disgusting. Of course men can be victims too, however no man I’ve known personally has come forth and admitted to any abuse of a sexual nature. Unlike the video, I’m not going to apologize for the actions of these predators, but I will say that I have nothing but sympathy for these women, (and men). I admit I was naive growing up, I just had no idea how much of a problem this really was.
Last year I learned that my own mother was a victim of sexual abuse. It was by a her uncle - (her Mom’s sister’s husband). He was a deacon with the Catholic Church. I even liked the man before I was told about it. He was not the type of guy I would think would be capable of doing such a thing.
I don’t know what to say, or what to do about this situation. It’s just sad. I feel helpless