I was having a debate with another mom about potty trained. She said her child was potty trained but:
- Needed to be reminded hourly to sit on the potty
- Needed help with the paperwork and pants buttons, etc.
- Still had “occational” accidents (by which she meant about 3x a week)
- Would not use a real toilet, only a potty chair
I wouldn’t consider that trained, I’d consider that “still in the potty learning stage.” My own definition:
- You can handle anything except perhaps diarrea (there are times I want MY mom when I’m ill), and very complex clothing (and I still have to have someone zip up some of my dresses).
- No one needs to remind you
- Accidents are rare (even grown ups are known to have rare accidents)
- You can use a full sized toilet
However, doesn’t include staying night dry.
Another friend has all the above, but doesn’t consider a child trained until they are night dry. (I can’t go there, since I was a twelve year old bedwetter).
Given that the point at which a child “shows interest,” “occationally uses the potty,” and can be depended on to go to the mall in underwear for six hours without a change of clothes can be a year or more…it seems like a not subtle distinction.
So, at what point do you think a child becomes “potty trained” as opposed to “still learning.”