What the hell (Parents)?

Last Tuesday, Latin class. My Latin teacher overheard something (it was ot very kind to hear) in class. We later talked about it. We came to some understanding. There was no more reason for me to burn Latin dictionaries in effigy.

Problem solved, right? Nope.

On Monday, I get an escort to the deans office to learn that I have been suspended for one day regarding this whole incident. My Latin teacher wanted to keep some sort of record with the dean’s office, so she sent a memo down. She did not request anything in the way of punishment.

I can cope with this. It did not exactly epitomize intelligence to say what I said about my Latin teacher in more than hushed tones, in her classroom, and without checking behind my back. Luckily no tests to get zeroes on, no biggie. Work better with teachers, try to communicate with them regarding problems instead of bitching to other students. Lesson learned.

Today, I wore shorts and a polo shirt, despite it being a tad-bit chilly. Coming home from school, my father informs me that, apparently, wearing shorts and a polo shirt is another manifestation of self-destructive behavior.

What the fuck?

Shorts, sandals, short sleeve shirt=self destructive behavior?

He goes on to rant about my involvment in a rescue organization etc, “If you had to rescue a hiker suffering from hypothermia because of trying to do a 14’er in shorts and a polo shirt, you would probably think that what they did was pretty dangerous and self destructive, right?”

Yet, again, I have missed this leap in logic. The last time I went to school, I felt safe enough in that environment to leave my A-pack at home (water, food, W/B shells, etc.).

This leads to the next obvious statement, “I know that you enjoy rock climbing, but your mother and I both seem to pretty strongly correlate this with your self destructive behavior, and unless you start to wear more appropriate clothing, perhaps you shouldn’t be allowed to participate in rock climbing, your rescue patrol, etc.”

What the fuck?

Here’s a clue to the parents of America.

What’s wrong with today’s youth? I do not know, but you probably are not going to find it in the clothes they wear, the mucic they listen too, the way they talk, who they socialize with, and what sports they do on their weekends. It’s like the parents of children who committed suicide and listened to Judas Priest. They seemed to believe that their children were perfectly happy and well adjusted people, except for the music which drove them to kill themselves. If only we could stay by out shildren and protect them from the evils of shorts and sandals.

There are no ther problems with society and youth.

Once the superficial evils have been tamed, everything else has just been taken care of.

If anyone can explain any of this to me, I sure would appreciate it.

Thanks, threemae

That sounds almost as bad as my dad, who once forced me to take the door off my room (I was 14-15) because he didn’t want his children “plotting in secrecy behind closed doors.”

This exact sentiment has been around for decades. It’s all part of life, my friend. Sorry this part sucks :slight_smile:
Zette

I’m 26. I’ve been seeing this girl for the past 3 weeks who is 19. As far as I knew, though she lived at home, everything was kosher with her mother that we were going out. Until 1 am on monday when her mom calls me and chews me out. WTF? She’s 19 fer crying out loud! If she lies to you about going out with a 26-year-old that’s not my fault lady. How old do you want your daughter to be before she can decide for herself who she wants to date? She picked me out of the crowd, she asked me out, and though I thought the age thing would be a problem, we were getting along fine. Now you are threatening to sick your boyfriend on me if I don’t stop seeing your daughter? Screw you.

threemae, I am a parent and I totally agree with you. Clothes and hair are not an issue with me. As long as my children don’t break the school dress code (modestly covered, no obscene t-shirts, and no cigarette or alcohol ads) I don’t care what they wear. Wearing shorts if it’s cold is NOT self destructive. We live in Wisconsin and lots of the kids wear shorts in the winter, I don’t blame them, the school is heated to about 80 degrees. I do make them carry along warm enough clothes so if the bus breaks down and they have to wait a long time in the cold they won’t freeze.
My neighbor nags constantly to her son about what he wears, of course he tries to be as outrageous as possible just to get a reaction. But as a parent I also know that your Dad probably won’t settle down until you wear pants to school for a while. Sometimes you just have to play along and let things settle down. If you want him to treat clothing preferences as no big deal you should treat them that way too.

The thing about shorts in cold weather is, they cover a whole lot more than a skirt does. But would a father complain if his daughter wore a skirt in that weather? Not a chance. Where’s the logic in that?

Can you tell I’ve been through this too?

Just wait until you’re a parent and you do the same thing…then you’ll understand.

The more I hear about people whose parents over-reacted, the more I appreciate my own upbringing. My parents and I really only butted heads on two issues: the length of my hair and the time I should come home on Friday and Saturday nights. And they never doled out punishments for either, just argued with me about 'em.

Guess when I’m home for Thanksgiving, I’d better thank my folks for being so permissive with my upbringing…

How do you do that? Make papier-mache models of them?

Incidentally, I suspect your father’s rant on clothing is displacement for: I want you to stop rock-climbing. For who knows what reason I can’t come out and say that (or it doesn’t work when I say that) so I’m going to use your clothes to end-run the subject

Threemae, at least your parents are concerned and involved. Do you know how many kids out there wish their parents gave a rat’s ass about them and their actions.

I know it’s hard to look at it from that angle, but your parents care. That ain’t a bad thing.

In ten years, you won’t even remember your latin teachers name.

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Unless it was Biggus Dickus.