So apparently I am a very active sleeper. I kick off my covers, steal other people’s covers, and last night it escalated to punching and kicking to the point where the person I was sharing the bed with went off to sleep on the floor, and now refuses to sleep over at my house.
This fucking sucks, for a lot of reasons, not least of which being that I really like cuddling up to people as I go to sleep.
Does anyone have any advice on how to make this less of an issue? Be it personal/medical on my end, or just how to set up the bed (it’s a 200x200cm bedframe with two separate mattresses fitted into it; the gap in the middle is plugged badly by a spare blanket), I’d really like to fix this.
You could try a weighted cover. My wife has recently bought a 200 cm x 135 cm weighted cover recently (weighs 8 kg; she weighs 62 kg); it is some help against her sleep problems that she bought it for and what I notice is that she moves less in her sleep.
Do you experience daytime sleepiness as well? Sounds like a sleep disorder to me. Read a bit about Periodic Limb Movement Disorder. PLMD can be a sign of other underlying medical issues for which treatment is possible. And PLMD itself can respond to medication.
There are things you can do to get better sleep.
Limiting alcohol in the evening, limiting caffeine, limiting blue screens before bed, more exercise, less stress.
It may be that you have a sleep disorder that causes you to act out your dreams. A doctor should be able to help you with that if true, but lifestyle changes are many time enough.
I run road races in my sleep. I’ve never slept well. I think it’s worse now. We have a king size bed to keep my arm slinging and kicking at least further away. I generally wake myself up. It’s maddening. I don’t know if anything can help.it. But a sleep study seems to be your best bet.
I finally did that, and my wife texted the next morning to ask how it went. I replied: “You married a man with the ability to hold his breath for an amazing amount of time while he’s sleeping.”
I immediately started using a CPAP. I’ve never “gotten used to it”, but there are lots of benefits. More effective sleep. Fewer naps needed during the day. Less memory loss.
And… less tossing and turning; I usually wake up in the same position I went to sleep in.
Be it personal/medical on my end, or just how to set up the bed (it’s a 200x200cm bedframe with two separate mattresses fitted into it; the gap in the middle is plugged badly by a spare blanket), I’d really like to fix this.
