My boyfriend and I have been going out for about a year now. Every weekend I sleep over at his house, but in the entire year, we’ve only successfully slept together twice.
He is a very restless sleeper, he tosses and turns all night long, rips the blankets off of me, then piles them back on. He snores like a freight train, and he is very tall and only has a full sized mattress, so he sleeps diagnoally across the bed, leaving very little room for me.
I am a light sleeper and take OTC sleeping pills on the weekend, I never have trouble sleeping at home. However, these do not keep me sleepy enough to sleep through all of that.
This is a situation that bothers both of us. Does anyone have any advice?
If my girlfriend (with whom I share a similar weekend sleepover schedule) slept like your boyfriend, it would be one of two solutions, the non-TMI of which would be separate beds.
I’m a pretty restless sleeper, and Mr. Athena wakes up if a spider in the basement three floors below us farts.
I’ve learned over the years to be less restless. If I started tossing and turning, he’d gently nudge me and say “sweetie, you just stole all the covers! Can you try to lay still for a while?”
Took a few years, but we sleep together all the time now, with the exception of if one of us is sick or something.
So… not sure if that helps… but restless sleeping can be trained out of a person.
Temper Pedic mattresses are great for not letting his tossing and turning disturb you. A king size would be the best wedding present in the world!
Bose makes headphones that cut out a lot of sound. They are good for other things besides getting a good night’s sleep.
Have a second supply of covers by your side of the bed.
If he sleeps diagonally, kick whatever intrudes into your territory.
If he sleeps in a t-shirt, attach a tennis ball or baseball to the back of his shirt. That will keep him from sleeping on his back so much and snoring.
I’'m a spastic sleeper - I toss and turn and fidget constantly and it’s hard for me to sleep in any bed that is smaller than king-size with my boyfriend. Part of it because I have to “cocoon” myself in my blankets and need the extra room and my own blankets to do this. Needless to say, this causes problems when he sleeps at my house because I only have a double bed. Unfortunately, if either of us wants to get any real sleep, I will usually end up on the couch. He, other the other hand, has a king-size bed, which is much much better. It really sucks but I have always been this way. One thing that helps is sleeping pills, but I don’t want to have to take them every night.
My formula is king-size bed, seperate blankets, pillow-based retaining wall downthe middle of the bed, earplugs and if necessary sleeping pills for me.
Some day I hope we’ll have a master bedroom big enough to hold his-n-hers Queen size beds.
When my wife decides to have her legs and arms splay all over the sleeping surface, I simply get out from under the top sheet. I still have the blankets and covers on top of me, her kicking ability is severely limited and I’m much less likely to wake up with scratches and lacerations on the backs of my legs.
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It might not be a case of getting what you want, but getting what you need. Due to his height, his bed is really not adequate even for him by himself. Either he’s going to have to get a ginormous bed, or y’all will have to learn to say goodnight and each go off to your separate beds.
