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Wow! How did you do that??? MY mother would have had a sh*t hemmorhage! Or a stroke! Wow!
I laughed.
About a month before she flew down (she would have flown down right away, but I hadn’t turned 18 yet and it would have been rape, or something) I told my mom that a girl would be staying in my room. My mom said “OK.” She probably assumed at this point that I was just having a girlfriend over for a few nights.
A few days later she asked me for details and I told her that I’d met her online before dropping the conversation. This didn’t seem to upset her at all.
A few days later she asked me for more details and I told her that she lived in Florida. This upset her a little.
A few days later she asked me for more details and I told her that she was five years my senior. This didn’t seem to upset her at all.
She arrived and the two of them got along OK. A month later I told my mom I was flying to Florida and that I’d be back in about a week. She said OK. I called her every day while we were on the road back home. When we got back we stayed with my mom for maybe another month before we secured an apartment for ourselves.
I don’t get along with my mom. We fight A LOT. But she thinks I can take care of myself. Hopefully she’s right.
I had a moment like that a number of years ago. There was a person I saw every so often on IRC, and we seemed to have some sort of connection.
She was hinting-but-not-quite-saying that she wanted me to visit her, but I didn’t have the cash. Then she hinted-but-not-quite-said that she wanted to visit me, which I was all for, until she said something along the lines of:
“I keep meaning to ask. Where are you on religion?”
“I’m against it. Why?” I replied.
That was pretty much the end of that.
Been there BigNik!
Lost…I think four (not sure anymore) relationships or friendships because of my religious beliefs (or lack thereof).
It’s sad but what can you do. I’ll never understand it, but I guess it’s all relative. I consider dating…let’s say…a known felon… to be absolutely reprehensible. They probably consider the same thing for a faithless individual. I personally can’t see the comparison, but I’m sure it’s all too clear to them.
Where do you live?
After a little digging, realized that you are in Romania.
Find a nice Romanian doctor like yourself and make beautiful babies and change the world.
I do NOT share his views, not at all. And I feel very strongly about the way I feel, but who am I to tell someone what to think?
No, I just attributed his categorical remark to youth. It wasn’t thought through. I mean… no one can possibly, literally, actually want that! I’m sure he’s not going to actually drown anybody. His general feelings probably won’t change with age, with no amount of studies or expert opinions.
Maybe I’m getting desperate. 
A long time ago, I didn’t go on a second date with a guy because during the first date, while we were having coffee at a street table, he pointed at this woman walking down the street and said “Look, a crow!” I’ve never felt so embarrassed my whole life!
Thank you! Now I’m afraid (and burying my head in the sand again)… I also sense that he is more religious than I am. I don’t have a problem with that, but I’m apatheic (thanks, wiki!) - don’t know, can’t know, don’t care. I think he might have a problem with that!
Well, easier said than done!
I know where you’re coming from with that. With my current relationship, there were a couple of things we each were a little afraid to reveal to the other, but when it comes right down do it if we can’t be open and honest, they “love” someone other than us. That doesn’t mean it’s easy to say something we suspect with bother or disturb or even horrify the person we have feelings for. But you can’t deny who you are, either.
As for who you are to tell him what to think, well, you maybe can’t tell him what to think, but you can be true to your own beliefs and values. And you can decide what you can tolerate and what you can’t!
This essentially covers what I wanted to say. Don’t compromise on your core values. That won’t end well.
Just a blunt observation. Throughout this thread, you come across a bit desperate. You appear to lack self confidence. So you appear to want to settle for some guy you met online that paid some attention to you, but may not share your same core values. Disaster waiting to happen.
Focus more on yourself. Develop self confidence. People are attracted to self-confident people.
So… we decided to cool it off a bit and see where the road leads us, if it leads anywhere at all.
jsgoddess, this just blew my mind:
So true, and so well-said!
Thank you all for your great and gentle advice! I’ll update if/when I have anything to say. 
I would make sure that you are not using this on-line relationship to avoid developing “real-life” relationships. You could spend a lot of time on-line with this person and find out later that you two don’t click.
In other words, don’t use this as a way to hide from real people.
On the other hand, if you are enjoying yourself, see how far it goes.
On the other, other hand, . . . oh, never mind.