Why on earth would you be embarrassed or anxious about a genital/rectal exam? I don’t get it.
Usually when a doc is examining me, I ask him questions about what he is looking for, how he can tell things. Like when he’s thumping on my torso, I ask which organs are where and what he’s checking for.
I’ve asked the doc why so many men act as tho a rectal exam is such a big deal, and he’s told me what he does to make it as comfortable as possible, and has described what he’s feeling for.
He’s the professional, and I only see him once a year - I try to get as much useful knowledge about my machine as I can.