My mom is stuck in a nursing home with Multiple Sclerosis in Upstate New York. Her birthday is coming up, and I in San Francisco.
I would love to surprise her on her big day, but I cannot leave work, so I am hoping to make it a great day using Skype and getting her something meaningful.
I thought sending someone who cuts hair really well and does some makeup might be a great way to make her feel special, or something that helps her maintain her memory and confidence in her intelligence.
Any ideas/personal experiences/etc are appreciated.
I think that is a FABULOUS idea. Make it a Guy. Make it a Guy (assuming mom is hetero) who you know will see the Woman behind the disability and behave no differently than he would if he was doing ___________ some rich lady or celeb. Oh and they need to be a fine stylist.
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Getting a wonderful haircut is a great idea, but depending upon how she feels about her body, is there any chance she might appreciate a massage and manicure? Y’know, just like a ‘Day-Spa’ visit, but one that can come to the centre where she lives and give her a pampering.
For many people living in aged or disabled centres, one of the (many) things they go without is the opportunity to be touched by someone. Staff at these facilities are well trained to never touch in a way that might attract censure (no matter how innocent) and in the process of course the residents suffer from a lack of tactile experience…maybe your mum might just dig having a good old backrub as a gift from you!
The haircut itself can be a superb tactile experience. I have a new hairdresser that made me realize why so many old ladies go to get a “wash and comb” every Saturday. I’m getting ticklish just remembering it, and it’s been two months!
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