Despite my better (?) judgment, I want to give my $0.02 about @Beckdawrek , from the perspective of a proud member of her fan club.
Change can be hard. Change can be hard when we’re young and – in all ways – agile. Change can be hard when we live and breathe in a milieu of diversity.
I strongly empathize with Beck’s serious health challenges. In my own situation, virtually All Available Resources go to that. Period.
Low rung on Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs.
Some of those resources likely get recruited in adapting to change. What if they just ain’t there?
She also seems to have a rather big, rather close, slightly complicated family. Resource suck, Part Deux.
And my sense is that she’s lived in a relatively rural part of the South for a long time (forever)? Stereotypically, that’s a mighty narrow demographic.
Old habits die hard. Everybody we see on a daily basis is either a whole lot like ourselves, or … has to hide the differences.
But add me to the list of people who think Beck’s got a heart of gold and gets just a wee bit of the benefit of the doubt at most every turn.
Some truly great, and truly SD-esque discussion, here. I also want to h/t @DSeid . You’re crushing it 
Oh, and my dear friend – retired surgeon whose childhood was a lot like yours – gets his hackles up if I ever even imply that there was some privilege involved in his success. Kudos to you for recognizing yours – not at the expense of acknowledging your own damned hard work – and for having a strong sense of noblesse oblige – rather than toxic entitlement – come out of it.
Happy New Year to you/us/(they <grin>) all!