What word describes my situation?

In My Humble Opinion
1

My relationship status has changed markedly this weekend – but I don’t know the right word to describe it. So I turn to the Teeming Millions.

I was duly introduced to a certain lady, we hit it off REAL well, and Saturday night we agreed in principle that we want to have a life together. :cool::smiley:

We’re well aware that we have much to discuss to get to the point of formalizing matters with an engagement. In the meantime, we truly feel as soul mates.

So what is the term for this situation of strongly committed, and holding off on an engagement until we’ve discussed the many elements of joining two lives?

(Wow! I can’t believe I just wrote about me that I’m on the path to getting engaged!)

2

Around here we call it a “relationship.”

3

Ah, but what subtype of relationship is my status?

4

Don’t the two of you ‘have an understanding?’

HH

5

The type of jewellery used to formalize such an arrangement is usually a promise ring, so I guess you are Promised?

6

I don’t know. A good one?

7

Wait, you guys didn’t just meet Saturday, right? That’s just when you had the conversation? My boyfriend and I are in the same phase. I describe it as co-habitating. If you’re not doing that, then you’re just dating.

8

We met socially at the end of March, went on our first date a week ago Saturday, and had said conversation this past Saturday. So we’re already old friends.

And the people who introduced us had money down that we would get to this point, whatever it’s called, inside of two weeks. I hope they had a LOT of money down. :slight_smile:

9

I’d say you’re in a committed relationship.

10

You win, Melon.

That sounds good. We’re committed. And we’re committed to each other. :smiley:

11

I believe the word you are looking for is “fucked”.

12

Hopefully! (and often and enjoyably!!!).
I’d agree “committed relationship” is a good term.

13

Hold still while I carve an M into your shirt with a sword.

14

Committed’s good. There’s also exclusive, as in neither of you is seeing anyone else.

15

“engaged to be engaged” is what my circle would call it. It differs from a “committed relationship” in that marriage has been specifically discussed.

16

How long have you two known each other?

17

I don’t get the whole “engaged to be engaged” thing. You’re either engaged,or you’re not. Engaged to be engaged just sounds like a term a guy would make up to get his girlfriend off his back about the subject.

18

For many people the engagement begins at the official proposal. It’s like a King being a Prince until he’s been officially crowned.

An ex and I had been together for a couple of years and we discussed marriage quite a bit. At the time we “knew” that we’d be getting married but neither of us had the money to buy a ring and propose to the other and so we were never engaged.

19

It is what it is; don’t worry too much about what label might fit.

20

Yeah, that’s where the boyfriend and I are at. But I would never go around saying I’m “engaged to be engaged.” To me, that just means that you’re dating. Or, if you must give it some special kind of label, you’re in a “serious relationship.” I mean, if we were no longer dating and now “engaged to be engaged” would I have to start introducing my boyfriend to people as my “almost fiancee?”