Last night, a friend announced he was engaged, after four months of dating someone. I soon received a few messages from mutual friends expressing amazement at the speed they moved. (Full disclosure: They opened a joint bank account two months ago. He says it is only for “travel expenses,” but others aren’t so sure.)
He’s not a close friend, so I don’t know if it’s always been smooth sailing, but I do know he’s been in two other “serious” relationships in the past year, although (obviously) neither of them progressed to this point.
While I was initially taken aback, and thinking they were moving extremely fast, I remembered that my parents got engaged after 5-6 months of dating, and they are still married, 30+ years later.
So, how long were you dating your Significant Other before the question was popped?
Just a few months. We weren’t all that serious to start with but back in the day it was a way of coping as an unmarried couple. Over the next year or so things picked up steam and we actually got married.
We got engaged not quite two weeks after we met. We got married nine months almost to the day after we met. That was over 21 years ago, and we’re still married.
Approximately four months. We were married eleven months after our first date, which was just over 10 years ago.
To be fair, my now-husband wanted me to move in with him and I refused to do so (and therefore give up my very nice, reasonably priced, conveniently located apartment in Queens and go live with him on Long Island) unless we were actually getting married. Seriously, it was a really nice apartment (1,000 square feet, pre-war building, convenient short walk to two different subway lines and less than $1,000 per month with heat included).
1 year to the day from the day we actually met. (We’d first gotten acquainted on-line via a mutual friend and a BtVS message board.) We got married 1 year after that, to the day.
It’s just a way of saying that it’s not all that serious yet. Setting a date is the real part of an engagement, until then it’s a fair weather commitment.
Slightly over ten years from our first date. But I knew he was The Guy about midway through our second date. I just didn’t want to get married for a long time and was the party most leery about the finality of marriage. Then I eventually realized I did want to get married. Once we were engaged, we got married about five months later, just needed to plan a suitable wedding for two older people. (“Please, we already have two toasters…two sets of dishware…two frying pans…nine guitars…”)
Been married now for 16 years.
“You have to kiss a lot of frogs to get a prince.”
On our second date, my husband told me (not asked) that he’d marry me. Four weeks after our first date, we eloped. Tomorrow is our 32nd anniversary. Sometimes it doesn’t take long at all.
Two hours after laying eyes on her for the first time, I introduced myself to her by saying “Since we’re going to be spending the rest of our lives together, we should get to know each other.” :smack:
I’m not normally an over-the-top hyperagressive jerk.
Anyway, our 30 years together just prove that I was right. (For the first, and so far last, time.)
