My girlfriend is getting married in June and she will have only known the guy for a little over a year. He is a great guy, but they were both in very serious relationships b4 this one and I don’t want to see this end because it turns out to be a rebound fling or something. Do such quick engagements/marriages work out? I don’t want to see my girlfriend hurt. Help anyone? Please tell me some good news that these kinds of relationships last and don’t end in divorce.
Actually, I guess this really belongs in the general questions section, but whatever.
One year - not so bad.
One or two months - I’d say that’s bad.
I had a friend who left for college in September and came back engaged at Spring Break. He had been dating her for a couple weeks. They seem to be doing all right.
Did she know him at all before they started dating? Sometimes that can make a difference.
Hell … I am going away next weekend and I’m hoping to come back hitched …
just kidding …
No, she started dating him sorta after they met on springbreak–I inroduced them on Sunday, they were dating by Thursday. He’s in TN she’s here in VA too. They were engaged a month later.
My co-worker Vicky (the same Vicky in the “Help me steal a dog” thread I just started) met her husband on-line in about spring of 1999. He was in England. They chatted on-line and on the phone for about 2 or 3 months, I think, when he came to America to marry her. They shacked up another 2 or 3 months until her divorce from her previous husband was final, and were wed that fall. They just celebrated his 1 year anniversary of arriving in this country and their 1 year wedding anniversary is soon. So far, they seem to be getting on great. The kids love him, the dogs love him, he’s got a cool accent, and so far no one has been raped, robbed, or murdered (I guess these fears are more specific to on-line romances than real life ones), so I guess it’s a success.
Another one of my best friends proposed to his wife after they’d only known each other a few days and they married a month later. They were together 25 or 30 years (I forget which) before they were seperated by death.
Cervaise and I got married about a year and a half after we met, got engaged about 9 months after we met. But, after six weeks I knew for certain that he was the one. I just had to wait around for him to figure it out too.
We’ve been married for two years minus about two weeks, and we couldn’t be happier.
My friend met a guy on the net & he was here five days & asked to marry her & she accepted.
Doesn’t mean they are getting married right away-it might not be for a year.
I think men who ask to marry so soon just don’t want any other guys to have her while he sizes her up.
My husband & I started dating in December of 1994, and we were married in November of 1995. Mostly okay, most of the time! 
Mrs. Pluto and I met in late October and were married in February of the following year. Essentially four months from meeting to marriage. That would be February of 1977 and we’re still going strong, four kids later. In fact, we’re getting to the point where the kids are leaving (hooray!) and it’ll be just us again.
I wouldn’t necessarily recommend it but it has worked for us. It wasn’t love at first sight, just that things worked pretty well right from the start. One strong point was that we had both given a lot of thought as to the type of person we would marry before we ever met, so dating was just a means of finding that person.
I must also add that it hasn’t all been a bed of roses. Mrs. Pluto has a few faults, one of which is thinking that I have a few faults. But we’ve both been willing to work on staying together when we’ve needed to.
Oh, one other thing. We decided early on that I get to make all the big decisions in the marriage. So far there haven’t been any big decisions.
Carol and Richard, a pair of coworkers of mine have been married 42 years. They got married 2 weeks after they met.
Osip
Me, I cannot even find a date after looking for over a year.
sigh Some people ahve all the luck.
“Marry in haste, repent at leisure.”
Boy, did I prove that one. Met her in July, married the following December.
Oh well, I got a wonderful son out of the deal.
My sister met her husband when they were both stationed at Ft. Lewis. They were engaged on the 3rd day, married within 3 weeks. They have 4 daughters and have been married for 23 years.
StG
A childhood friend met a man about a year after high school graduation. A week later, he asked her to marry him. Two weeks after that, they did. I last heard they were still married after more than 15 years and quite happy. That’s pretty good. If they are still married, then they are approaching about 26 years of togetherness.
We started dating in February, got an apartment by the middle of June and were married in October. That was in 1993, we’re still together, with a house, two cars and three cats.
Of course, we first met in 1973, in junior high, never dated, (I never dated anyone in high school) were friends off and on for years. (I had a major thing for her; she was blind). We had not seen each other for a couple years when a mutual friend brought us together on Christmas Eve. I tried my best to avoid her that night, but we started writing, (Real Mail!) and in a month were together.
But we weren’t dating for that long!
I suppose it works for some people…
My parents were engaged two weeks after they met, and were married after (I belive) 4 months. They’ve been together for 25 years so far. Still going strong.
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My best friend in high school met a guy in a bar. He proposed two weeks later; she said yes. They got married within three months.
And then they had two sons, and they lived happily ever after… until she got tired and dumped hubby and the two young boys for a new boyfriend.
…the boyfriend was Canadian, and wanted a green card (permanent US residency). He married my friend, but then the INS caught up with him and told him he couldn’t stay in the country (apparently he’s been in a bit of trouble back in Canada). So he was forced to stay up north… and took on a girlfriend.
My friend, down and depressed, took over the cleaning business they had started together, and for some years cleaned restaurant kitchen vent hoods. She finally got out of that marriage, and got an admin job in a body shop…
where she met another guy who is an auto-mechanic. They fell in love. Awwwww. Twice-bitten, thrice shy, though. She and the fellow are still together, but are not married. That did not however, prevent her from having a baby with him.
Oh wait, what was this topic again?? I think I just hijacked a bit. 
I met Vernon in September, 1987. We were engaged in October and set to get married Christmas eve. He had moved in by Thanksgiving. We did not get married until a year and 3 months later because the night we were to be married the preacher got ill and then there was a blizzard and then the license expired.
We are still married, happily too!
My father asked my mother to marry him on their second date. He wanted to ask on the first date, but he thought it would be too forward. My mother wanted to answer yes when he asked, but she didn’t think it would be proper. She strung him along until the fourth date when she finally accepted his proposal. The were engaged about six months, I think. They were married for 37 years, until death parted them.
I knew my first husband for 3 1/2 years before we got married and that marriage lasted a little over 2 years and was the most miserable time of my life.
I just got engaged on July 3 to a man that I’ve been dating since May 6. We met towards the end of March but I was dating someone at the time so we didn’t hook up right away. He pursued me and we spent a lot of time together during the month of April. I knew from the moment I met him that I was in love with him but it’s always been hard for me to break up with people so it took awhile before I broke up with the other guy. But it was love at first sight for both of us and we just knew that this was it. We are going to Las Vegas and getting married April 17 and I’ve never been happier in my life.
One of my brother’s met his wife in April and they were engaged and living together in June and married that December. That was 10 years ago. My other brother met his wife in February and they were married in December. That was 5 years ago. I think my parents got engaged after six months and married 6 months after that. That was 35 years ago and they’re still together.
I don’t think that the amount of time you’ve known each other has anything to do with when you should get married. It shouldn’t take you 2-3 years to decide if you want to spend the rest of your life with someone. You either know it and feel it or you don’t. And when it feels right, you just do it.